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    Mar 3, 2012, 02:03 PM
    Wife trouble
    I'm 30 years of age, I have two kids my wife hangs out with her friends every Friday and Saturday night and I'm left alone looking after the kids which I never mind but I work six days a week and she stays at home and when I want to spend some family time with her and the kids, she takes off to be with her friends drinking, partying and clubbing. All her friends are five years younger then her! Pliz help me!
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    Mar 3, 2012, 02:04 PM
    Have you tried talking to her, asking her why she prefers to go out alone on weekend nights?
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    Mar 3, 2012, 02:36 PM
    She gives me the same answer every time that she needs time with friends cause she stays in the house whole week.
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    Mar 3, 2012, 02:44 PM
    Then you are left with counselling or DEMANDING (never a good idea) that she doesn't go.

    Or sitting down and talking to her, but it would appear that that hasn't worked.
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    Mar 3, 2012, 11:47 PM
    Get tickets to a show, book a sitter, and make an effort for BOTH of you to do something together, that doesn't involve the kids.

    Win-win.
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    Mar 4, 2012, 08:47 AM
    Discuss it again and suggest a compromise. One night a week out with friends, the other night is family night or date night. Let her know that you understand her need to see friends, and that is fine, but you are at work all week and would like to spend time with your wife and family.
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    Mar 4, 2012, 11:30 AM
    Maybe the words, "I really miss you when I'm home alone" will make an impression. My husband belonged to an association with a ton of meetings (I realize this is not the same scenario but... ). I was not happy, told him I was not happy, and then one day said, "I miss you when you aren't here." He's cut way back. I think he heard "wah, wah, wah" and had no idea where I was coming from.

    So, yes, say you miss her, ask if you can make plans together for next weekend.

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