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    Feb 25, 2012, 11:12 AM
    What do I do when my boyfriend goes to college?
    So, this may sound a little ridiculous considering we're teens, but my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months, and I love him to pieces, but he's 3 years older than I am and he's going off to college at the end of this coming summer/: I'm 15 (turning 16) and he's 18 (turning 19.) I'm a sophomore and he's a senior... again I guess because he decided to stay for an extra year of high school because he wasn't quite sure what he wanted to do with his life. He's really into music and drama and that's how we got really close, doing our schools musical together(': I mean, he's not your typical high school-looking boyfriend, but I absolutely love him, and he's super kind to everyone; a true gentleman you know?

    Anyway, yesterday he went into town to Audition for a performing arts program at a college about an hour and a half away and it hit me. What are we going to do when he goes off? He'll be home every other weekend, but I'm just so afraid he'll fall in love with someone else... he was my first for everything. His family is so generous and kind and they feel like a second family, but I just don't if their support and stuff will be enough to keep our relationship strong. We both 100% want to make it work, I guess I just need some assurance that this could work, and that I can trust him.):

    Thanks For Reading Everyone!<3
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    Feb 25, 2012, 04:01 PM
    There are no guarantees. Sometime these things work, sometimes they don't. You may meet someone while he is away.
    Enjoy the time you have and keep the lines of communication open while he is way.
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    Feb 27, 2012, 11:24 AM
    I think you do what most juniors and seniors do, and anyone else with a boyfriend/girlfriend in college. You enjoy your high school years, and keep in touch as often as possible with your partners. No point in worrying with things that haven't happened yet. That's no fun!
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    Mar 18, 2012, 08:48 AM
    There is nothing you can do what happens happens if you both still want to be with each other you will make it work because you will both want to. If your boyfriend did fall in love with someone else at college it probably would have happened where you are eventually anyway but if he has said he still wants to be with you then that's a good sign. My sister is also 15 and she is dating a guy who is 18 coming up 19 in September and she was really worried about him going to college and meeting someone but he didn't and there still together. Living in England he also became legal to drink as well so she was worried when he was going out to clubs a lot every weekend and she couldn't. I guess they both wanted to be with each other so he didn't cheat or break up and there still just as good as before. However my sister said to me if it eneded up not working she would be very upset however it just showed he wasn't as into her as she thought and she would move on. So either way don't worry :)
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    Mar 18, 2012, 09:17 AM
    My high school boyfriend was a year and a half ahead of me. He went to a two-year state college's ag program about two hours away from home, but didn't come home that often (too expensive). We decided to agree to continue to love each other but date others. I knew he would need to get into the social scene at college, so I didn't want to limit him. In turn, I dated guys at home (which idea he didn't like, but he had to be fair to me as I was being fair to him).

    At the end of the two years, he returned home to work on his dad's farm, and I went off to a four-year college. We continued with the same deal, but in reverse. There were no computers or cell phones back then, long distance calls were expensive, so we wrote letters to each other to stay in touch. And we both dated.

    We were still committed to each other by the time I was a senior, and planned to marry after I graduated. Then my parents sat me down during my summertime visit home and told me they refused to allow me to marry a farmer's son and be stuck in my hometown. They believed I had more in my future than that. This was back in the '60s, and I was an obedient daughter, so I broke up with the guy, never telling him why, since he and my parents had to coexist in the same small town.

    So we would have made it except for extenuating circumstances.

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