[dotman]

I have recently resigned from my job for the reason that I have fallen in love with my straight guy manager. But when our boss ask me why am leaving, I declined to tell him but he insisted so I told him it was because of my manager's complacancy at work and that I can't work with this manager anymore.

But that wasn't the real reason why am leaving. It seems to me that quitting my job was the only viable solution because I wanted to stop what I am feeling for my manager. They also don't know that I am gay. Been finding fault of my manager so I would hate him instead of falling in love deeper seems not working because I find it hurts me do those and feel guilty about it and also it's so unfair for him.

I gave a two weeks noticed and on my last three days, I sensed that they are hoping that I have changed my mind and would stay. I noticed a lot of changes too regarding management at my work meaning the reason that I told our boss for my resignation were being addressed. I honestly considering to stay but still can't for am afraid that I might not be able to control myself about my feelings for my manager if I stay.

So after thinking for so many times, on my supposed to be eve of my last day at work, I decided to talk to my manager. I ask him if he wanted me to stay despite the reasons of me leaving is because of him (his incompetence). And he said he wanted me to stay because am a valuable staff for the business. And I ask him if he would still want me to stay if I had a deeper reason that involves him, and I was surprised because he was convincing me to tell him what it was.

I was having second thoughts of telling, I don't know how he would react. But I manage to tell him calmly that I have fallen in love with him. He didn't react violently, says don't know what to say and that he is flattered and most importantly, he still wanted me to stay. Can't believed what I just heard from him for am not expecting that this is how he will take it. Was so relieved. So he ask me if I will stay, and I didn't hesitate to say yes not thinking if it was the right decision.

So we end the meeting clear that I would be staying, but I I gave him the chance to think over it and let me know if he realized that he would not be comfortable working with me before I revoke my resignation from our boss.

Do you think I made the right decision to stay? My supposed last day was over and I had revoked my resignation, it was just like a regular day working with my manager, as if nothing had happened. He even posted my week's schedule. Does this mean he really wanted me to stay or is he just playing it out with me?

[chanskie]

I have the same problem you having right now.
I was thinking of leaving and hand in my resignation as well.
But I come to realised I would rather in the workplace together and continue our good relationship instead of run away from it. I think it is selfish to think that if I love him then he must love me back. There are many love in different form... like I said to my best friend:" t least he is healthy, happy and farting!!" lol...

I never told him how I feel and I don't want to jeopadise our relationship. But I did said something to him quickly the other day:" Hey Rusty, i love you man. Just want you to know that." He just simply replied:"ok, thank you....i know."
And we leave it as that...

It still hurt when I see him at work... but I always glad that at least I can still be there for him when he need me... I used to feel really guilty about my feeling for him... but then I realised loving someone is nothing wrong... It will be wrong if you hurt the person you love

I wrote this for him the other day... I hope you may learn something from it...

“People come into our life for a “Reason”, They might stay for a “Season”, But the memory will always last for a “lifetime”.

So treasure the people you meet ….. no matter who they are or what they might be, gay, straight, Asian, Caucasian, lesbian, rich or poor….it doesn't matter….. they all come into our life for a reason, good or bad….because you never know how long the person you cherish for will be there with you….

Always cool your head before you say anything, always have a long thought before you take any action…….what you think is right might not be right for the other person.

I always believe….I will rather have him in my life, even I can't have him….rather than not having him…..

I send this to you with my blessing and thank you for being part of my life…. Because this is the only place I can say I love you with no hesitation
I love you!

Good luck with whatever you choose to do in the end of the day. You don't want to have any regret in your life.