[Runnergirl58]

Okay, so I'm having a bit of trouble with prom date stuff. Today, a boy asked me to my senior prom. This boy is nice, but he's kind of really weird. Its sweet and I'm flattered and all and he's really nice to me and we are actually family friends but... I just didn't picture myself ever going with him. The boy that asked me is kind of a big loser at school. That sounds awful to say. I'm really not a mean person. However it's kind of true. Also, he's like 3 inches shorter than me (and I'm average, if not on the short side for a girl) he twitches in class, he kind of picks at his skin, he kind of has a lot of acne, glasses, and like super super skinny. He's not that attractive and he's just kind of overall known as annoying. Also, he's really not friends with my friends and everyone is like "really, you're going with him?".

I haven't given him an answer yet. I don't know what to do. Like I said, he is a nice guy, and Id say we are friends, and If I saw him there, I would totally say hi but... I just don't really want to go with him as my date. Also, there was someone else I kind of wanted to ask. But I feel really bad, and my family thinks I should go with him because if I don't "it would really hurt his feelings". We are also family friends (my younger siblings are friends with his little brother), and I have a lot of classes with him and now it's really awkward for me. I am really not a mean person and I feel really mean saying all this. I just... feel weird going with him. I mean, its my senior prom. Ugh. Please help. What should I say to him when I see him (in 2 days. He actually sits next to me in math class!) Thank you.

[mmresd]

If you have someone else you rather go with, then say no. He will understand, a man learns from rejection, it will mean nothing in the future, friendship should be strong enough for that. Do what you want, is not OK to sacrifice your happiness to satisfy someone else, ever.

[Runnergirl58]

Thank you so much mmresd. I appreciate it. How do you think I should tell him without sounding really mean/ making it really awkward? When he asked me, I was really surprised and I sort of just blurted out "uh, thats really sweet. Uh, i dont know, ill have to see. Uh, can i get back to you? I have to go. Bye". Thanks for your help.

[talaniman]

I think honesty is best, tell him you can't go with him because you have another invitation you are considering, and it wouldn't be fair to accept his invite. Leave it at that no matter what his questions are afterward. That's probably would have been the best approach from the start, then he wouldn't have had his hopes up for two days. Tell him NOW, not in two days.

[vbgirl13]

What you should say is I don't think it's going to work I don't want to ruin our family friend relationship but I was asked by someone already and I don't want to hurt your feelings but it's not going to work sorry and give him a hug if you feel comfortable doing that and someone else might ask you and remember it takes a lot of guts to ask a girl out and lay it down easy that you don't want to go with him I know it seems hard but he will understand I had the same problem for a dance he asked me to and I didn't know how to tell him but what I told you to say I said hope that helps let me know how it goes

[Runnergirl58]

Hi everyone. Thank you all for your help. I actually did get asked by another boy today! I am excited to go with the new boy, but because boy B only just asked me today, I couldn't respond to boy A immedietly

*imedietly. So, I actually did wait 2 days :( and tomorrow will be a 3rd day he's waiting. I know I should tell him my answer (a nice no) tomorrow. More than 3 days is just cruel! The problem is that this weekend is presidents day weekend. I had no school yesterday, no school today or tomorrow (well it's the weekend. Haha) and no school on Monday. I won't have a chance to talk to him face to face. It would be so much easier and less awkward to text him or Facebook message him, but I should probably call him, right? Ugh.