[crain_ception]

Hey, I've been going with a girl for 8 months now, and I've honestly never been happier, normally in a relationship I only care about making the girl happy so none of us care about me, this ones different. She actuallly did care and I love her to bits, we've planned out our lives together and its just perfect.
However recently she's been pushing me away and told me she didn't love me anymore and I had one chance to make "us" work and be happy forever. I desperatly want it to happen, someone please tell me what to do, I can't lose the only person that cares about me...

[Swiss_Ms.B]

It doesn't make sense. Why did she say that she didn't love you anymore? Did you smother her that she is pushing you away?

[crain_ception]

I don't know why she said it..
She said I didn't do anything wrong and its just her but I don't know :/

[crain_ception]

Id also like to say that when I was with her yesterday she was her old self with me at times, and others seemed like she was only pretending to like me?

[Swiss_Ms.B]

Could you explain how she changes from one minute to the other in more detail?

[crain_ception]

Emm, well at one minute she'd smiling and laughing, wanting to kiss me and hug me and being really playful and happy then the next she's trying to put distance between us and seems upset with a forced smile and if she says anything about us or tried to do anything that you'd do in a relationship it just seems like she doesn't mean it at all

[Swiss_Ms.B]

Do you happen to know anyone in her family or someone who has known her longer you could talk to about her. Sounds to me like she has some kind of personality disorder. She might have psychiatric problems. And this is all new to you? You never noticed this behavior in the 8 months you've known her?

[crain_ception]

No I haven't noticed before? She has gotten upset before over strange things like she said I was too good to her and deserved someone a lot better which I tried to comfort her about but asides from things like that then nothing...

[crain_ception]

Okay, I actually think we're getting sonewhere now... It may well work out :)
But thank you swiss_Ms.b you've actually helped a lot

[Swiss_Ms.B]

I am glad you know where you are going... don't quite see how I helped, but your welcome.

[tonda]

That's your issue rite there... how can you make someone care when you don't care about yourself... you treating everyone as an priority and they are treating you as an option... grow up, man up.. start taking pride for yourself, show some strength,, no woman ia attracted to an weak.. low self esteem man for too long...

[crain_ception]

Thanks tonda I shall take that into consideration :)

[mmresd]

If you think that there is only one person that truly cares about you, then you need to go out and meet more people. In addition, you need to realize that for you to be happy, the only person who you really NEED to love you is yourself, if you don't love yourself, how do you expect someone else to do so?

As far as your girlfriend goes, you cannot MAKE someone do anything, especially something like love. You need to be nice, do the things that SHE wants to do, and let her do the things that YOU LOVE to do, invite her to the fun part of yourself, and leave the self pity aside.