[milly234]

I love my boyfriend.. Simple as that. But, when we had sex for the first time I didn't get an orgasm. I figured its cause it was my first time ever but not his and it hurt and that's just normal for a girl. But the past two times we've done it I haven't gotton one eaither. There is lots of foreplay. But, he does have a tiny ****. I was just wondering if this is normal.

[Cat1864]

It's very normal for women not to climax. Most women have problems reaching orgasm through intercourse. It is very common for women to need extra stimulation such as from fingers or a toy. It is more about the limitations of the female body than it is the size of the male. We just are not built for physical stimulation during intercourse.

For females, orgasm like arousal is primarily mental. If your mind isn't into it, then it makes it harder for your body to follow. With that said, focusing on climaxing is not the way to get there. Focus on the sensations and what feels good. Enjoy the journey instead of trying to reach a goal.

Understand that arousal and orgasm actually begin long before foreplay does. It begins with the small, knowing glances. It builds with anticipation.

Don't worry if you don't climax during penetration. It is not uncommon. Relax and enjoy the journey. There is absolutely nothing wrong with using a toy, fingers, oral, etc. to climax before or after (or even in the middle) intercourse.

Good luck and have fun.

[Fr_Chuck]

So in all your foreplay are you telling him what to do, and how you like it, You have to know what you like and how you want him doing the foreplay. And agree, it is not uncommon to not coimax during penetration.

[smoothy]

Yep.. both the above posters are spot on... are you able to give yourself an orgasm alone? If you can't do that you are almost expecting the impossible for him to do it. You have to guide him to exactly what you like and how you like it. Some women nothing but the most delicate of touches are required... others prefer the more agresive and direct method and nothing less will work.

Contrary to popular opinion... we guys are not able to read your mind... adn no matter how much experience we might have with other women... each one is unique and different.. and you are no exception. If we have to fumble around and figure it out by trial and error... expect it to take a long time. Most of us try... but we need some direction in the beginning so we know what works for you.

Its not the size of the boat... its the motion of the ocean. Which means... the biggest guy won't get you off if he doesn't have a clue what to do... and a teenie weinie guy can make you see stars every time if he does.