Check out some similar questions!

dmoore1616 · Feb 10, 2012, 07:49 AM

My boyfriend is always on YouTube and I wasn't sure why? I finally took his phone and found out he was searching young girls on YouTube to strip tease or just shake their ***. It bugs me that I'm not good enough at sex with him anymore and it really bothers me he still does it when I tell him to stop. What should I do?

tickle · Feb 10, 2012, 07:56 AM

You can give him an ultimatum and see how far that goes; if it doesn't work and he continues his games, then you know there is just nothing there any more. Or you can sit down and talk to him in a moderate tone, not getting angry at all, stay calm and ask him how you can spice up your sex life. Or you can strip tease for him and see if that perks him 'up'; you both have probably lost your spice of life in the bedroom and you just need to make it more interesting.

Going behind your partners back and tapping into their private life, and we all have to have that, is not a good idea because now you have lost trust that you can't regain. You will always be wondering what he is doing.

Trust is a big issue in any relationship. I see no harm in him having his 'little pleasures' as long as it doesn't cross the line to the real thing.

awesomagic · Feb 10, 2012, 10:26 AM

To be blunt, let him do it. You're his girlfriend, not his mother. You either accept him as he is or end the relationship. Besides, he's really not hurting anyone. If he's not seeing anyone else and seems happy with you, then it sounds like you are enough for him. Millions of guys do the same thing every single day, and they are in rewarding, loving relationships. Let it go, because he could do a lot worse.

Zaeth · Feb 10, 2012, 06:12 PM

I totally disagree. A man should be respectful to the woman he cares about. If he watching other women and jacking off to them, then there is a problem. Not with you, but with him. Sit him and down and tell him how it makes you feel and ask him to stop. If he says he needs that or more sex, realize that he may never be satisfied whether you give him what he wants or not. Yes, talk to him, but never settle for less than your best. By best I mean what you deserve, which is a man who respects and loves you and you alone.

Fr_Chuck · Feb 10, 2012, 06:21 PM

Is he doing this and not having sex with you? If this is effecting his relationship with you ( sexually)

He does it because it is fun and he likes to do it.

It has nothing, not a single thing to do about YOU> He does not want those instead of you, he does not prefer them. He just uses them for personal fun.

This is like in the 1960's he would have had a playboy magizine under the mattress or in the bathroom.

Men have been masterbating to photos and now videos since they had photos. It may be against your personal moral value, but almost all men do it, some do it telling you.

So if it is not effecting your sex life with him, you do nothing, he is having fun and not hurting anyone.

You can try sharing porn with him perhaps. But it is not because of you, it is not about you.

TheMan23 · Jun 13, 2012, 11:11 PM

Anybody who has a problem with this is not very confident in themselves. Coming from a guy, if we are not around our significant other, and I have a wonderful one, it's just fun. I personally like to watch certain videos because it reminds me of my fiancé. She doesn't like that I watch them but she understands I'm a guy and when I finally explained that it was just something that passed the time more than anything (a way to fix certain needs at unfortunate times when we aren't together), I think she understood. Just ask if there's a certain reason he does it. I'm sure he will have a understandable reason. If not drop him. Lol there's more than likely another guy out there who can come up with a better answer on why they watch. Shoot.. Watch some with him.