[Dave_beast]

Life has played some strange games with me. Let me first tell you my problem:
I am 23 years old. I was in love with a girl of my class. Though I liked her for last 4 years and I asked God for her in every prayer, but finally I proposed her last year and she accepted it happily.

We were happy, every thing seemed so good. We loved, we enjoyed, we saw dreams and made many promises. I tried my best to never let her have any complain and she never got chance of it. She always said that I am the perfect guy for her and she said she wanted me to be her life partner. I accepted what ever she used to say. We used to talk day and night and were so involved in each other. According to our planning I was suppose to talk to her parents about our engagement in this Feb..

But her mother and sister don't like her talking to me for no reason, the only reason being that I am guy and she is not suppose to be friends with a guy before her marriage! Her mother wanted her to get married with her cousin ( for whom they are forcing her for last many years)!

All of a sudden she started avoiding me. She gets irritated for no reason on everything. She says that she can't even support me in any sense before her parents. She has left every thing on her parents. She says that all her love for me was madness! And she ll get married who ever her parents choose!
I am even ready to meet her parents along with my family. But again she says that her parents don't want any proposal for at least one year! Nor is she giving me assurance that she'll not accept any proposal before considering my proposal! I have lost hope to live.

This all happened in matter of days and now I am so much depressed and disturbed! I cry every time, I see her in everything, I feel her in every work. But she behaves as if my tears don't matter to her in any sense. I tried to find peace by practicing religion and all but of no use! I don't want to live this troublesome life any more. When ever I see her past texts in which she promised me that she ll never leave me no matter what happens and when I look at current situation, I cry and ask myself which one to believe, these promises or my worst present.

So please suggest me some way by which I may get relief of all this. I don't want to lose this relationship only and only because her parents are having veto power. She wants me to wait for one more year and then I may propose her officially and during this time I am not even suppose to talk to her. :(I am even thinking of suicide to get rid of this pain. She says no one dies for other. I want to prove her wrong this time :( :( :( Life sucks

Please help me.

[I wish]

Be patient with yourself. Give yourself some time to reflect on the relationship and to heal from your wounds. Now is the time for you to grow stronger as a human being. You can only gain from this experience.

Once you become a stronger person, maybe she will emerge from hidding and be with you again. Or you will meet someone else who is even better for you.

I know it feels really tough right now and it might get tougher. But once it reaches its peak, it will only get easier from there.

Be patient with yourself and focus on becoming a better person for her or for the new people that you will meet.

[shyam.v]

Dear Friend.

I am also facing the same situation and my story is also exactly same. My GF's parents are strongly against me and they washed her mind. Right now they captured her mobile, disconnected their land line number so that I can't contact to her. I am also in deep tension but still I am trying and I know that we are made for each other and I can do anything for her and I Can cross any limit. I had taken the help of some powerful persons such as Political parties Leaders, Advocates, Police Persons and Press Reporters so they can meet and talk with her parents from my behalf. All of these peoples are ready to fully support me. Let us see what will happen. I have only time of This March since their parent specially her elder brother challenged me that we will do her marriage somewhere else within March What will you do? Let us see the result will come very soon and I will inform you very soon.Send me your email id to me ([email protected])

[talaniman]

Harshness Warning

Don't be a dufus kid about it,

She wants me to wait for one more year and then I may propose her officially and during this time I am not even suppose to talk to her.

Deal with this like a man and get your stuff together to impress her parents in a year. They do this to prove you are worthy, and reliant and true.

What they are supposed to give their daughter to some crybaby wimp?? Puh-LEASE!!

Now put you best foot forward. But if you aren't man enough to stand the pressure... don't expect to get what you want without working for it. You have a year. Use it wisely, and stop the crying why don't you!!

[geminichick]

I'm not meaning to look down on the situation but I find it really difficult to believe that this girl's parents want her to marry her own cousin. Incest is a crime. Why any mother would suggest this is beyond me? There are some pretty weird people out there in the world but this sounds beyond weird. Odd... no let's try disgusting.

If she wants to marry her cousin ( which seems unbelievable in the country where I live... Canada) then let her marry him. There are many other girls out there for you. Sounds like she's not one of them.