[ebmhen]

I am married to a man who lets our teenage daughter do what she wants. It is now at a point where she doesn't listen to me, disrespects me, tells me that her father told her she can do certain things (i.e.: have a boy in her room, etc.). I have been arrested for assault and battery, because my daughter was disrespectful (cursing), and told me to leave my home. I jumped on her.

Her father did nothing, but tell her not to curse in the house. He lets her stay out until 1 am or later, when the city curfew is 11 pm. The pending conviction is now being held over my head. I can not have hostile contact with my daughter.

If I tell her to do something, she speaks to me in a disrespectrul tone and doesn't do what I tell her or she takes her slow time. When I tell her father about it, he claims that he talks to her, but doesn't communicate to me what he says, nor does he communicate with her in front of me. At this point, I don't know what to do.

I just recently found out that my husband (whom I live with), is planning to let my daughter stay at my brother's home so that she can attend a school that she previously attended, but was removed from the program, because she wasn't focused and failed 3 classes.

When she was attending, she was getting a free ride on the school bus, but because the bus doesn't pick up from our area, becaue she no longer is in the program, she may be able to have her father fill out an out of district form (contingent upon availability), but she will have to take the city bus.

I disagree with this decision, because she had the chance to focus and chose not to. If she misses the city bus, my husband will leave the responsibility up to me to take her to school, which is a distance away from where we live. She now attends her zone school and has been doing much better, but my husband is discussing this issue with my daughter instead of me, his wife.

What can I do?

[Fr_Chuck]

File for divorce and move out ? Try to get custody of child in divorce and make her do what you say perhaps?

[ScottGem]

You titled this Relinquishing Parental Rights. So the first thing is to tell you that isn't going to happen. Even if you do divorce your husband and he gets primary custody, you will not abe allowed to relinquish your rights.

If you and he can't agree on how to raise your daughter, then divorce may be your only recourse. First, though, I would suggest talking to a guidance counselor at school and try to get help to get your husband to understand he is doing his daughter no favors by giving in to her.