[bestkeptsecret]

My Boyfriend of 13yrs, has been keeping in contact with his married ex girlfriend, via text,email,Facebook,even phone conversations, the cell phone she has been calling I asked her to stop calling and texting or I was going to contact her husband because the phone is in my name she threaten to call the police saying that I was harassing her so I called the phone company to block her from calling and texting the phone she still keeps in contact with him he says there is nothing going on he will not answer for her when I'm around or talk to her when I'm around I plan on leaving him and ending the relationship although we share a child together that's 12yrs old I know it might damage my child but I know my worth and it not worth the drama but I wanted to know is it worth telling her husband? I've saved email and text message between the 2 of them saying they love each other.

[Trella]

Well as an answer to if you should tell her husband, just think if you were him would you like to know? Or maby he already knows, that sort of thing is usually noticed pretty fast

[bootnelroy]

nope drop it don't stoop to her level... tell your 13 year boyfriend its over... make friendly arangements for custody... don,t be selfish and use the child as a pawn... but the guy is maybe not seeing his x and she is just getting back at him by bugging you ? Don't know more info required... tc

[talaniman]

How long has this been going on? Have they actually met up? Did you actually tell him to cut it out, or are you THAT upset?

I would think twice before breaking up a home because of the Internet. Making such big decisions based on anger might not be very wise, and revenge often backfires. Tread thoughtfully with this.

It would seem that a long term couple would have a way forward by setting some rules of good behavior.