[Moooo2]

I'm attracted to a guy I work with. I was attracted to him when he joined the firm, but he soon got a girlfriend, and I was going through a tough split so I put it to the back of my mind and ignored it.

They've now broken up because his girlfriend is moving country and I am over the difficult period. I'm not sure when exactly they split, he first mentioned it in the office a few weeks ago, but as long as six weeks ago he was mentioning her in an offhand way, kind of like an afterthought, which made me suspicious something was wrong.

Since then there have been the undeniable signs of attraction between us, lingering looks in the office, his trying to get my attention, always using my name when he doesn't use other peoples, and more...

It's hard to deny the chemistry I feel which is strong (and distracting), and it appears he is feeling it too. However I've been on the end of a rebound relationship before, and as we work together I would want to take anything very slowly, in case it got awkward.

There were signs he found me attractive even when he was with his ex, although he never acted on it. I wonder now, if he is really attracted to me, or if I am the first woman he's seen and is targeting me for a rebound relationship. I want to be very careful in this situation esp. As we work together.

Should I wait to see if he gets over his ex, and how long do you think it should take? They were going out for just over a year.

[talaniman]

Talaniman Rule, Never give your heart to someone thats been dumped,or just dumped someone.

I am against work place relationships because they run the risk of making the job a place you hate to be when times get tricky, awkward, or down right messy. Then there is the co workers, nosy, and gossipy.

Forget chemistry and attractions, find romance chemistry, and attraction outside the job. That's just me though.

[indya]

Talaniman is right. Workplace romance always creates a mess. Look for romance outside your office.

Everyone takes his/her own time to get over an ex. An individual can take two different time spans to get over two different relationships. But at this stage, I feel it's a rebound.