[Ashes92]

Ok, I am in desperate need of help here. I want to stop liking this guy so bad but I just cant. ITs pathetic really because I see him every time I close my eyes and I can't get him out of my mind. Ive never gone out with him, and as a matter of fact, I've never actually even had an in depth conversation with him. I had math class with him last semester and that's about it. We had little insignificant conversations but nothing more. I don't know, okay I used to see him at least glance at me in the hallways but not anymore. One time last semester the bell had rung to get to class but me and my friend were waiting for the warning bell to ring as well before we got up and left to go to class after lunch. Well, he walked past and stopped in front of us. He said "C'mon! We gotta get to class!" with a cute little smile. Then he actually waited for me to get up and come with him. It was awesome. But the only thing I've said to him, err he's said to me lately, was "that looks good" by which he was referring to my sandwich. [[weird, but whatever :) ] I know now ill never get him because I don't think ill ever be good enough for him [[as depressing and pathetic as that sounds]]. He could get a lot of girls so why would he want me, right? Well, I'm mainly here to ask someone out there for some pieces of advise because my mom doesn't really respond very well when I talk about this stuff... more along the lines of "yeah......uh-huh.....yeahhhhh" So can anyone out there actually actively respond to my "problem" of how what to do?? :confused:

[kristynn]

Honey, I think you desperately want all his attention.

You should try to talk to him more, get to know him better, smile, be nice, and eventually he'll realize you're interested. If he's interested too, he'll make a move and ask you out. ;)

[AKaeTrue]

Ashes,
I honestly feel like he was trying to ever so slightly show you his interest in you by "making a flurt"... Why else would he comment on your sandwich (LOL)... because he wanted to eat it... I don't think so... He had probably been searching for something to say to you for the longest when all of a sudden he sees you with a sandwich... He probably smacked himself in the head after he turned the corner... Plus, he made the suggestion that you needed to get to class and waited for you to walk with him.
Maybe he has taken your shyness as a sign that your not interested in him.
Maybe it's your turn to "make a flurt"... Find something to make a comment about. Then, put yourself out there and just go with it/do it/say it.
Don't ever think your not good enough! That's preposterous! Think positively toward this and it will ultimately end positive. Even if you don't get the guy, you may gain a friend and it could do wonders for yourself esteem.
Kae

[Ashes92]

I don't necessarily want ALL of his attention, just a little bit, to at least feel like he acknowlegded my presence.
But thank you both so much.

[AKaeTrue]

Ashes,
I didn't think you were wanting all of his attention and didn't think your post sounded that way either. (Please read my post above) I do think this guy was trying to make the first moves and now believe it's your turn to "make a flirt". (sorry, flirt was misspelled above)
Would you be up for that?
Kae

[kristynn]

I've re-read your post, and yeah, I've got a wrong impression the first time I've read it. Sorry about that.

Though, why don't you think you're not good enough for him? Be more confident! Confidence never hurts! ;)
It's your turn now to get him to "notice" you somehow!

[Ashes92]

haha yeah so I took your advise and I did actually see him today walking into a store and I smiled to him.
and he nodded up, you know the way guy do that as if to say "hey."
=]

[AKaeTrue]

That's great!!
Feels good right??
He acknowledged your smile with a nod up!!
Perhaps your smile has opened a door to conversation for the next time you see him!!
That's great news!! Yeah!!
Kae

[talaniman]

Mans point of view, if I make an effort to start a conversation with a female at least if she is interested, can hold up her end, or at the very least let me know that you aren't discouraging the attention. Smiles work and cute giggles at my dumb jokes are appreciated.

[unsure_alert]

Ok I am currently in a similar situation. You need to think do you really want to get over him or do you really want to get with him? I have spent many days being in complete confusion over lads and trust me it won't work and nothing will happen. I have wasted endless days worrying, thinking etc about lads and ye just sort your head out, think what you really want then make the move. You either need to stay away and occupy yourself with mates and keep your mind busy to get over him or you need to be more flirty, more upfront and willing to chat and be open! I have also realised from experience if you sit back and wait it won't happen, as the lad will think your too shy or not interested. But if lots of people are after this lad, you need to really consider what you are letting yourself in for. I obviously do not know him and don't take this the wrong way, but he could know a lot of people are interested and this could make him be inclined to be a bit of a player. If you need anymore help you can private message me or post back on here, id be happy to help, let me know how it goes! GOOD LUCK!

[Ashes92]

thank you guys.
I think ill try harder but I'm just afraid of being a dork. Haha.
but thank you all you guys all have such great advise and points. =]

[Brwneyedbabyx3x]

Honestly I trhought I was reading my post I have the same problem.. well what I would say is juss try to git over him but if you can't then make him notice you more and talk and flirt with him more. Can you help me?