[Cour26]

My brother's got ADHD. He's 6 and I'm 14.His condition really affects me and I feel as if it's ruining my life. I don't mind that he gets extra attention from my parents or that he's always receiving special treatment. He hits me, pulls my hair, scratches me, steals and breaks my stuff, shouts insults at me, spits at me, the list goes on and on. And I'm sick of it and it's making me feel really depressed. I've talked to my mum about it, told her how I feel, but nothing she said to him made him calm down or stop hurting me, so she just ignores me every time I end up crying on the floor because my brother has thrown something at me, or bit me or done anything else.I just wish I could have him out of my life but that's probably not happening.I just want to be as happy and worry-free as all of my friends, but I can't because of him and I hate that every problem I have has to become 10 times worse as he always gets in the way.I feel awful. What can I do?

[joypulv]

1. Insist on a lock for your bedroom door, and stay out of his way as much as you can.
2. Stay after school if possible to do homework there, or at a library, or at a friend's house. Maybe look for some babysitting or a small job.
I don't mean you should have no home to go to because of him; just ways to avoid some contact.
3. Insist on some parental control on your own behalf, if you feel that he is being over indulged just because he has a 'diagnosis.' Having ADD doesn't mean free reign of terror over the household. If that gets nowhere, ask your parents for a therapist, someone to talk to and help you get through the next 4 years! You shouldn't have to suffer for this.

[Fr_Chuck]

I would say there is something much more seriously wrong with him, than ADHD. There is no excuse for biting and throwing things, and it sounds like your mom is just allowing the behavior.
Print this off and give it to your mom, let her know she is not being a good parent, that she is ruining your life and actually harming your brothers by not making him behave.