[IzzyJ_]

Basically, I am only 18 been with my boyfriend just over a year. I cheated on him in March last year when the truth all came out I found out he cheated on me, 3 times, kissed 2 girls, and slept with another.

When the truth came out we both dealt with it, and decided to put it behind us, as we were both as bad as each other, but I have had the worst year of my life. I always get accused of doing something I shouldn't. I couldn't even go to the dentist without being accused, or stay at my own home, or meet my friends without doing something wrong.

Sometimes we'd have a good time and be perfect, and next it will be ruined, he always brings up me cheating on him, but in my eyes he has done worse, 3 girls and I have seen conversations with a number of girls he is planning to meet up with. All this accusing makes me think is he still cheating on me, or has done more that I haven't found out about.

I have fallen out with friends, family everything over this. I want out, but he makes me feel I am nothing without him, I used to be so strong but he has changed me! Please someone give me some advice on what to do... I can't turn to any one maybe a strangers opinion will have more of an impact. Thanks

[talaniman]

Lol, you may have decided to put it behind you, but all you did was sweep things under the rug without resolving the feelings and reasons behind the behavior that led you both to cheat. Now you don't trust each other, nor are good to each other. Seldom does this work itself out without guidance, nor honest communications.

If you cannot sit down and bring about change in a positive way together, this hurting one another will continue, until one of you walks away. Sit down, and see if he is willing to work with you, and change the way you treat each other.

That's the only way two people who have crossed the lines of good behavior can ever get healthy with each other, is to now help each other heal, instead of tearing each other down. For sure if you can't heal together, you will do it apart.

[GreenBay21]

I was exactly where you are, you need to end the relationship. That's it, that's the advice. Don't be with someone who treats you like that, clearly he isn't over the fact that you cheated, but since he did too he has no right to make this one sided.
Honestly after being single for a little while, go out with your friends and spend time with your family, you will shortly realize what a mistake it was to worry about being on your own. And then your confidence will come back, and then you will start dating again, and hopefully you will choose someone who truly deserves you.

Chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream + champagne and orange juice + greys anatomy is a good remedy too!

[mmresd]

This issue has gone way too far. When all the cheating came out is whenever this had to be worked through with A LOT of communication. You have decided to pretty much ignore it and he hasn't been able to forgive you. Without no trust, there is no relationship, this is a perfect example of that. End the relationship, it doesn't seem like either of you are really mature enough to get over such a complex issue that trust really is. Don't cheat again, learn from your mistakes. If you feel like kissing someone else or sleeping around, just remain single... no use in being in a relationship when you are just wanting to have fun.