I really need help

Cakecookies · Jan 24, 2012, 03:17 PM

Okay well I'm a teenager and I know I'm way in over my head. I've had a bad breakup recently actually around new years fancy that... But my friend told him that if he ever hurt me or made me cry again he would hit him.. And then he texted me saying your friend said he was going to fight me, don't ever talk to me again.. And me and him were exes and we were trying to befriends. So that is on my plate right now and a new semester started and I don't like any of my classes.. I feel stressed I feel seriously like I'm depressed and like I'm not ever going to get over this. I feel like I'm not going to make it in the future. I know I effed up on a lot of stuff but I'm human. I asked my mom if I could see a therapist and she thinks I'm crazy but I really feel like I can't move on.. I don't want you to feel sorry for me I just need advice? Or someone I can talk to cause I feel like eeehh...

Fr_Chuck · Jan 24, 2012, 03:26 PM

So why did your boyfriend break up with you? Because some other guy warned him? Not much of a reason if he really liked you. Honestly, may be a good sign that he was not that serious about you anyway.

And I know as a teen every boyfriend is always "the one" when you are with him but you will most likely have severl more "the one" before you are out of teens.

jujulia · Jan 24, 2012, 03:42 PM

Wanting to see a therapist isn't crazy.
How long have you been feeling that way?

Cakecookies · Jan 24, 2012, 03:45 PM

Noooooo he got mad at me because I was friends with my ex and he asked me to stop but I was and still am really good friends with my ex and he was jelous I guess and he acted like this because a lot of his exs cheated on him I heard

Okay imaa kid:b but I need a therapist whether my parents are guna want me to or not! I need you to give me advice? Hah maybe a possibly free therapist?

tickle · Jan 24, 2012, 03:56 PM

You won't get a free therapist here, Cake. First off how old are you and second what do you need help with ?

jujulia · Jan 24, 2012, 03:58 PM

I live in France, are you in the US? I don't know how things work in the US.
I go to see a psychiatrist. Psychiatrists are doctors, they can give medicine (antidepressants) and can do talk therapies where they talk with you, ask you questions and make you try and think in more positive ways, try and make you think differently, in ways that will help you feel better.
Then there are also Psychologists, who aren't doctors and therefore can't prescribe any medicine. They only do the talk therapies.
Then there are the Psychoanalysts, who listen to you talk for one hour and they don't say anything.
I hope this helps,
Julia

Fr_Chuck · Jan 24, 2012, 04:02 PM

Threads merged

If they are in the US jujulia, most mental health is not covered, or covered well under health insurance. So most people have trouble affording treatments or appointments

Cakecookies · Jan 24, 2012, 04:03 PM

Im 15 and yes I live in the us. Nc to be exact& really lately I haven't felt like myself.. Honeslty I try to do good and I wonder what does god want me to do? Ive asked him a lot of times but he never gives me signs.. Or I don't see them I don't know but I just feel this weird emotion I can't really describe 0.o

karie_in_a_box · Jan 24, 2012, 05:06 PM

Don't let that bother you. You can move on

tickle · Jan 24, 2012, 05:59 PM

He has many exes, how old is he?

Cakecookies · Mar 9, 2012, 03:26 PM

Olay so I love my ex a lot. He means a lot to me and the reason we broke up is because my dad. We still had a strong connection even after and we still tell each other we love each other. Then I told him sometime I want to be with him other times I don't and we really can't be together.

He got upset and didn't talk to me for like 2 weeks then he texted me. Were a-okay now & I was thinking about it and I think I want to be with him but I'm not sure if he still wants to be with me.. Any advice?

grammadidi · Mar 10, 2012, 11:32 AM

I don't want to be nasty but it really doesn't sound like you two have a recipe for a long-term relationship here. First of all, it sounds like you are both engaging in immature behaviors and don't communicate well. Second of all, if your Dad isn't supportive of your relationship it will likely be very difficult to build anything lasting. Thirdly, you really do seem to have doubts and this generally means "Don't!"

For right now, I think your relationship needs to end and you need to concentrate on making a life without him for now. You both really need to give things time to figure out your own lives first. You both should spend some time dating others too. If your relationship is meant to be, it will all work out as you learn how to build your lives apart first.

I hope this helps a bit... even if it is a bit difficult to hear.

Hugs, Didi

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