[oranged5380]

I'm 16, living in the UK, and gay. I came out to a close friend, and also confessed my love for him. He doesn't (I think) have an issue with my sexuality, but doesn't care to know me anymore. He doesn't speak to me, or even look at me anymore. It has only been about 3 weeks, but I really don't know what to do. My love, as far as I can see, are real; it's not just a crush. I think about him all the time, but try to act normally around him (that is, I speak past him easily, and speak if the situation demands it). He (as far as he has said) isn't gay, so a relationship is hardly on the horizon, but I need some finality. I don't whether I should let the issue drop, and not do anything, or whether I should act. I'm never going to stop loving him; I need help.

[poppyfix]

First of all, you are a guy? Or a girl? I can't really tell except for the part that say you're gay
So that means you are most likely a guy. Sorry if I am offending you. :(
Well, the thing to do is to tell him straight forward how you really feel and if he doesn't care, move on. MAN UP. Gay people never have lives okay? So become normal. If he does want to be gay with you and make out or something stupid, do so and have fun. Just say something ans let your emotions get the best of you. And your 16. Calm down and enjoy life. This is probably just a phase!

[Schoolmarm97]

You poor thing! I can well imagine how hard it must have been for you to come out to your friend and tell him you loved him, and it is heartbreaking that he has faded from your life. Sadly, my dear, that's the way life goes. I'm hetero, but believe me, I've been where you are, and I've scare away my share of partners (and been scared by some in return). The fact that you love him doesn't mean he has to love you back, and sometimes that extra pressure of knowing that the other person has expectations that you can't (or don't want to) fulfill is more than a friendship can stand.

I have to ask, though, whether you know he's gay, suspect he's gay, suspect he's questioning, or just threw it all out there in hopes that he might be open to your advances. Which is it? If he's straight, then you most likely knocked his socks off! ;)

I recommend that you let him be for now. The friendship may recover if you don't press the issue. Coming out and professing your love all in one shot was a little over the top. Perhaps in your next relationship you'll let things progress at a more natural pace. Be up front about your sexuality, then give the relationship time to grow on its own before you throw yourself into it with such gusto.

[talaniman]

Gay or straight, rejections can hurt and disappoint, but because he didn't want what you want, doesn't mean someone else won't.

If you can let go, you will find that out. That's how you deal with one sided love, you let it go, and move beyond it.