[Veda123]

I am very simple girl.I am 24.
My parents are searching proposals for me. Even they asked if you like someone let us know. But no one was there at that time.Even I didn't think I will fall in love at the age of 24. I saw almost 7 to 8 proposals but I didn't like any.

After that where I am working I found a very nice guy.he is not of my caste at all.Our departments are different.
We almost talk daily,sometimes go for Coffee as well,with him I really feel comfortable.
But
Problem is that he really don't want to get marry,not with me but with any girl.He is very caring-He asks me you search some good boy.but even when I meet some boy as proposal automatically it happens that I compare both of them & I feel that I really want to get marry with him only.

And even if he also feels to get marry with me in future its really problem as he is totally different from my caste. My parents surely won't say any thing but I am really afraid of my relatives,my friends(what they will think of me?)
I really don't understand what I am supposed to do
-To tell him my feelings
-To stop talking with him(tried it several times but not working)

Sometimes even in my mind question arise suppose I get marry with other guy then whether I am doing wrong? Like I am talking with him daily or sometimes coffee not more than that.As per my opinion whatever you want to do do it with one person.


PlZZZZZZ help

[JudyKayTee]

He's the one to ask these questions. I tend to believe what people tell me. He has told you he doesn't intend to marry ("he really don't want to get marry,not with me but with any girl") AND he has told you to find someone YOU can marry ("He asks me you search some good boy.")

That's about as clear as it can get.

He likes you, he doesn't love you, he has no plans to marry you.

[talaniman]

I think your conflict and issues are you are caught between pleasing your parents, and facing the realities of your heart. Your parents want you married ASAP! But you are just now exploring your world, and though you have your own heart to follow, you have already found disappointment with someone who does not feel as YOU do!

Give yourself time, to recover your emotional balance, and be able to see things thru realistic FACTS, and not just feelings.

Remember it is you who must live with a guy who is a stranger, so please have your own standards by which to chose a husband. Whatever your traditions and expectations of your parents, and society, it is you who will be actually living with some fellow, so take your time, and choose wisely. No hurry despite the pressure of others, family, or the world.

[lucky27bar]

The sacrament of Matrimony is a very sacred one. Therefore, we must not force the situation. Since, he isn't prepared to a deeper commitment yet, why not him give some time to ponder on the issue and maybe when his mind enlightens, then, will he give you his reactions re the matter. Just take one step at a time. And don't forget to pray.

[Fr_Chuck]

You don't really do anything, he does not want to get married, there is no reason you can not just be his friend, that is what he wants.