HI, I am a mother of two teenagers ages 13 and 16. I recently went through a depression and am slowly talking myself out of it.
I found I was blaming myself for my daughters anger and sometime still do. I have been married for 19 years and am now feeling closer to my husband after 19 years. My depression has had him open his eyes - realizing that I can not do everything on my own. I've been the stronger of the two and he knows now that I am not and is finally helping out. (it took my break down for him to realize it).
I sometime want to talk to people who can give me advise. My daughter HATES her dad and she admitted that she loves him because she feels she has too. And for me, she loves me more again because I'm her mom.
My story is long and want to be able to talk to someone without being shut down.
Why is it so hard to be a parent and a friend to you kids. When everything around them is falling apart, you are to blame.
My 16 year old daughter wants control of her life, doesn't want a curfew, wants to go out whenever she wants, doesn't help out around the house and when we tell her what to do, she HATES US, blames us for her depression, hates her life and threatens to move out. How much of this abuse can I stand for, she has excussed for everything.
My husband has given up, gives her the freedom to a certain extend - doesn't question where she goes but still enforces a time to be home which whe fights us all the time.
I know I can't protect her all the time, I try to talk to her, try to get down the why she is always so angry.
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