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    Jan 13, 2012, 08:11 AM
    What are the possibility a guy never likes to oral female?
    I'm just curious because my husband just do not like it. And I understand if he don't like to talk about it. But I still would like to know the reason.
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    Jan 13, 2012, 08:26 AM
    We can give you possibilities, but they would be guesses. It is a personal thing and he is the only one who can tell you why he doesn't like giving oral.

    These are just a few reasons:
    Taste
    Texture
    Smell
    Religious reasons
    Cultural reasons
    The thought of their mouth being in the same area where bodily waste products come out
    Hair-too much or too little

    If he won't talk about it, then you can't know his reason(s). However, if you are having sex together and building a life together, you should be able to talk about likes and dislikes. If you try again to talk to him about it, make certain you aren't giving him the impression you are trying to make it a confrontation. Neither of you should feel defensive about your own likes and dislikes. By communicating, you may be able to work out compromises that satisfy both of you or gain a greater understanding of each others needs.
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    Jan 13, 2012, 11:05 PM
    It's the same both ways. Many girls don't like to give head. Many men don't like to give oral (I got lucky hehe, that's what gets my hubby ready)

    Its not a big deal. If he doesn't like it, there are ways around it. vibrators (even hands free ones that you can just put on and forget about while you have sex)

    The most important thing is to TALK about these things. If you guys don't talk about it, it won't get any better.
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    Jan 15, 2012, 07:47 AM
    Thank you Cat and Jenniepepsi, appreciate your respond.
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    Jan 15, 2012, 07:36 PM
    Personally, I don't understand why he wouldn't assuming no undue foul odors (sometimes not obvious until your nose is in it) and its not an issue of personal grooming that's behind it (meaning he likes hardwood floors but she wants the neanderthal look)... but there are women that get almost violently reactive when asked to do it (one of the reasons I stopped dating her was her reaction)... so it's a case of "what floats your boat".
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    Jan 23, 2013, 08:15 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by smoothy View Post
    Personally, I don't understand why he wouldn't assuming no undue foul odors (sometimes not obvious until your nose is in it) and its not an issue of personal grooming that's behind it (meaning he likes hardwood floors but she wants the neanderthal look)....but there are women that get almost violently reactive when asked to do it (one of the reasons I stopped dating her was her reaction)...so its a case of "what floats your boat".
    Oh no, no violent at all and as you mentioned about nose is in it, would be a no no too. He just don't like such act. Maybe most guy are like that, they prefer receiving oral than to perform it them self
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    Jan 23, 2013, 08:26 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by wifey01 View Post
    Oh no, no violent at all and as you mentioned about nose is in it, would be a no no too. He just don't like such act. Maybe most guy are like that, they prefer receiving oral than to perform it them self
    I wouldn't go as far as saying most... but saying some would not be unreasonable. Just as some women hate doing it... and some actually hate receiving it.
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    Jan 23, 2013, 08:30 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by smoothy View Post
    I wouldn't go as far as saying most......but saying some would not be unreasonable. Just as some women hate doing it...and some actually hate receiving it.
    You are right Smoothy thank you so much
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    Jan 24, 2013, 11:07 AM
    What I can't understand is WHY he won't even tell you why...

    I once dated someone who was nervous about giving oral because he had never done it before. He was nervous that he wouldn't know how to please me. So I taught him... I told him exactly what to do... He ended up being very good at it, that it would only take 25 seconds to get me off.

    If that could be why he won't, then teach him...

    If he won't tell you, then you have a lot to think about, because if it were me, it would be a deal breaker.

    ... sorry... I like a little tongue action...
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    Jan 24, 2013, 07:09 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Enigma1999 View Post
    What I can't understand is WHY he won't even tell you why...

    I once dated someone who was nervous about giving oral because he had never done it before. He was nervous that he wouldn't know how to please me. So I taught him... I told him exactly what to do... He ended up being very good at it, that it would only take 25 seconds to get me off.

    If that could be why he won't, then teach him...

    If he won't tell you, then you have a lot to think about, because if it were me, it would be a deal breaker.

    ....sorry....i like a little tongue action...

    Hi Enigma, I wish I know why too. It was just an easy question and he was unable to answer me accurately other than just 'I don't like it'. He claimed very fiercely that he already answered me.
    I even have to elaborate to him in an example if you don't like eating candy because it is too sweet not because you simply don't like it. He understood but hold on very strong to his previous answer. I'm just tired to go along with him. I will deal with it myself.
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    Jan 26, 2013, 01:31 PM
    If you can't discuss sex - what you like and don't like - with your partner, what can you talk about? I have no problem with "I don't like it." I do have a problem with "But I won't tell you why."
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    Feb 4, 2013, 10:06 PM
    I think I'm in the same boat as your husband. My boyfriend and I have been together for years now and I have never given him oral. I used to be a very sexual person but once I got with him I just felt dirty doing that. He has never brought it up to me but I feel like I should talk to him about it and get his input but I am nervous to because it is something that we have not EVER discussed. I personally don't like giving oral because I feel dirty and that's just something I don't like. Everyone has their likes though.
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    Feb 5, 2013, 09:30 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by chelseybacon View Post
    I think I'm in the same boat as your husband. My boyfriend and i have been together for years now and i have never given him oral. I used to be a very sexual person but once i got with him i just felt dirty doing that. He has never brought it up to me but i feel like i should talk to him about it and get his input but i am nervous to because it is something that we have not EVER discussed. I personally don't like giving oral because I feel dirty and that's just something I don't like. Everyone has their likes though.

    If you can't discuss sex with your partner, then you shouldn't be having sex...

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