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rebecca78 · Jan 12, 2012, 05:34 PM

Hi I'm seeking some opinions about a short story with a guy.

I went to a salsa club last weekend and started to dance with a very handsome good dancer. We looked in to each others eyes and almost danced the night away. We danced and talked together until he had to leave we exchanged numbers/facebook and kissed each other goodbye. He called me to see if I got home OK and the next day we had a long chat too and how he was so happy to have met me. We made a date for the Wednesday evening, he texted and called on Tuesday to make sure I was going to meet him that night instead.

We met and went for a drink, when I saw him I thought wow he's so gorgeous,and elegant, he was nicely dressed and groomed, very polite. He started talking about his life and explained briefly he had a son and that its over with the mother of the son for 3 years now he also said how long he was with her and how long with the girl after her. It didn't bother me that he had a son. Then he asked me about my ex's I replied I would prefer not to talk about ex's that its in the past now. He wanted to know how I was with other guys etc.. We soon changed the subject saying he was into motor bikes and did I like them? I replied I'm not a fan and think they're dangerous to drive to fast, he agreed but loves them and drives one sometimes.
We talked about a lot of different topics, and got closer and more comfortable with each other as the night went on, and kissed.

We walked to his car hand in hand, he was giving me a lift home. When he dropped me off we said our goodbyes and kissed again. I asked him if he wanted to meet again and he said yes definitely.I replied to call me when you're free and also if I'm free with my sport activities that I have. He replied yes and held my hand and I left.

Yesterday evening, I saw on Facebook that he had changed his status to widowed by a mistake because when we made friends the day before his status was in a relationship as he told me he forgot to change his status after his last relationship and wanted to change it for me. So I emailed a casual message how are you? And LOL for his status. He hasn't yet replied to that 2 days later. So I texted him last night a few hours ago a simple one, how are you? And no reply. Today is Friday, it would be nice to see him for a date again. I will make plans anyway, and see if he contacts me. I'm just confused, I'm trying to think what I said or did wrong? I know I said call me but hey a little text wouldn't hurt he seemed so interested texting and calling up until our date? OR do men just not text that much? Am I exaggerating or is it not cool to just be silent since our date?

Please let me know your opinions? To his attitude during the date too?

helpmeaskme1 · Jan 12, 2012, 06:49 PM

Either he had another relationship with a women and /or he was messing with or committed suicide or he doesn't find interest with you anymore ,so go over his house or see if you can call any one to see if he's okay but he gets mad that you're there just leave him alone and tell him to call when he's ready to talk again

talaniman · Jan 12, 2012, 09:11 PM

Don't be so eager, or desperate, you have done your part, now relax and let him do his, and see what happens.

I think you are a bit to excited, and carried away, so relax and enjoy doing your thing and see if he does get back in touch. Never hold your breathe waiting on a stranger to meet your expectations. Keep living, exploring and loving.

He is a stranger and you don't have all the facts. Let him chase you some, and don't chase him. A woman who is to eager, and desperate is a turn off.

rebecca78 · Jan 13, 2012, 12:09 AM

Thank you for your answers. Did it seem desperate texting him after the mail? I was just being friendly. O well I Will sit back and see. His actions are confusing that's all. Will keep you posted.

I wish · Jan 13, 2012, 11:13 AM

Seems like things are progressing well. Sounds like you're in a bit of a rush to get closer to him. Give it some time. Text him when you feel like it, but don't expect him to respond right away as he could be busy. Furthermore, since you're not a couple yet, there shouldn't be such high expectations on each other.

rebecca78 · Jan 13, 2012, 03:24 PM

Here's a little update! Thanks for all your advice, I decided to keep cool. Guess what he called me today late afternoon and left me a message as I was at work. He thanked me for the text and that it pleased him and that he has had a lot of work and hoped my day was better. He also said he prefers to call the than to text because he likes to hear my voice and lovely accent and to give him a call when ever I can, + lots of kisses..
So I guess I over reacted to his silence as he did eventually contact me. This has been a learning experience to take it very slow and chill out. I have lots going on in my life at the moment so we will meet again when the time is right!

Thank you all again, I will keep you posted.