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toomanytears · Jan 11, 2012, 02:28 PM

Okay so my ex who was really a horrible choice of a boyfriend has FINALLY moved on thank god lol, anyway why is it that I'm a bit jealous that he finally moved on and has a new girlfriend? Everything about him was pretty much negative, I wrote some crazy stories about him on here that transpired between the two of us, but now that its beyond over and he has a new victim, why on earth am I bit jealous? How do I get over this feeling? I also have started to move on too obviously not completely or this would not bother me lol.

Chocodrip07 · Jan 11, 2012, 08:42 PM

You've already agreed that he is a negative person, then you should be really thankful that he is out of your life. Stop thinking about him and get yourself involved in other things. Enjoy being single again... Good luck... for a better future.

ivette777 · Jan 12, 2012, 12:14 AM

Yes I agree, move on and become extremely happy with or without someone new :) you do not need boyfriend/girlfriend to make you happy, you and friends+family make you happy. Enjoy life :) take it easy. And good luck in life.

Cat1864 · Jan 12, 2012, 06:42 AM

Is it jealousy? It could be that you are so used to him bothering you that you are missing the attention. I don't mean that you want him or want to be bothered by him. You are noticing the lack of his presence in your life. Like taking a nail out of a wall and seeing the hole left behind.

It takes time to properly patch a hole in a wall or in your life. The best thing you can do is be involved in your life. Try something new like a new hobby, community classes, continuing education classes, volunteering, working out, redecorating your home, etc. What you are doing is changing your focus by giving yourself things to concentrate on that he isn't or hasn't been a part of.

If you do think about him, don't dwell on it. Even giving yourself a mental kick for thinking about him is putting too much attention on the thought. Treat thoughts of him like a really annoying infomercial or song you absolutely can't stand and change the channel as soon as you realize the thought is there. Give yourself more pleasant things to think about instead.

Remember that it takes time to change old habits and thought processes.

toomanytears · Jan 12, 2012, 10:45 AM

Wow cat1864 do you make a lot of sense or what? Yeah I think its because of the attention thing how even after we ended he was still so persistent ant on being in touch. Overall I am so happy he moved on because I won't have to worry that he will be showing up somewhere I am, and that is the best feeling in the world! He was very angry guy, and I'm a happy person, our personalities did not mix well at all. GOOD RIDDANCE!