[Bumblebee20879]

What should I do re my boyfriend?
We got together 10 years ago, then split up 3 years later after I found out he was still living with his wife and kid (he'd told me they were divorcing and she lived in another city – gullible me, huh?). During those 3 years, he dumped me frequently by text, then we got back together (again, stupid me)
They really did split up Dec 09, and we got back together Jan/Feb 10. Then out of the blue, he text me and dumped me again in May 10. He got back in touch in Oct, then when I said I didn't think we should sleep together any more, until we had sorted our other issues out, he vanished. In Nov, he contacted me to say he just wanted to be with me, and we met to talk about things. I told him that he couldn't keep treating me like that and I wasn't sure what I wanted to do. He assumed we were back together anyway. Over Xmas, he had his ex and kids stay with him for a week, then he went to stay with them for a week. During this time, he sent me the very odd text, and in fact at one point didn't contact me for 3 days in a row. His reason: ' It's awkward to contact you with the ex around'. Sorry, I thought they'd split up a year previously?
He has a habit of making me feel bad for not immediately replying to texts (I ignored one, and he said that he'd sent me a few messages and hadn't received a reply and that I'd really worried him)
If I say anything negative to him, he gets sarcastic or says it's somehow my fault or goes on about how crap he is.
When he got back last wed, he sent me a text saying 'I'm back home now, just wondering if you wanted to see me soon'. I did reply, but didn't answer the question, just said welcome home and asked how he was (something he rarely does). Later that evening, he sent me a sarcastic message saying that I obviously didn't want to see him that night then. So apparently I was meant to read into his text that he wanted to see me that night.
He hasn't been in touch since Friday, when his last comment – by email – was 'well it doesn't look as though I'll be seeing you any time soon as I've not had any invites'.
I didn't reply as it annoyed me that he expects me to do all the inviting and the contacting and the running around emotionally – I'm the pro-active one, all he does is drives over – 20 minutes – to visit me once in a while and pays for a takeaway.
Am I being out of order for being annoyed/angry with him, and not contacting him? Or is he being a jerk for not contacting me in any way, shape or form for nearly 5 days?

Any helpful comments welcome, thank you. Sorry for the long post.

[Yellow1234]

You should never ever let any guy treat you that badly. Sure he may care about you or love you, but that doesn't give him the right to act completely manipulative. You have a million reasons to be angry with him, so don't feel bad because that is what he wants. Don't let him have that kind of power over you. I think you should tell him how you feel, but don't let him make you feel bad for not being satisfied about your relationship, but if that doesn't work it might be for the best to let things come to an end permanently. But whatever happened be strong!