[shania21096]

I found out my boyfriend is in to pot and I don't know what to do

[Aurora_Bell]

Shania, this isn't really a chat or blog spot, we are all on on different times. We live all over the world :D Why don't you start your own thread and we can help you?

[ScottGem]

As noted this isn't a chat site. You don't get immediate responses. When someone responds you get an e-mail notification.

Also its not a good idea to piggyback your question on another thread, so I've moved your question to its own thread.

To answer your question, you dump him. A teenager who is already into pot is not good boyfriend material.

[shania21096]

I don't want to brack up with my boyfriend he loves me more then anyone could ever know but he don't know that him bing on pot buggs me how do I tell him?

[Aurora_Bell]

If you guys are in love and he loves you more than anything, you should be able to open up to him and explain your feelings. You don't have to have a fight about it, just explain that smoking pot is something you really don't agree with and it bothers you. Explain why you feel this way and ask him what his thoughts are about it? How old are you guys?

[shania21096]

16 and 15 and thanks

[Aurora_Bell]

If you want the relationship to last you really do need to be honest with him. Do you think you can tell him how you feel?

[ScottGem]

If he really loved you he wouldn't do things that bother you so much and you wouldn't have a problem telling him.

So you tell him that his using pot bothers you and you don't want a boyfriend who is into drugs. If he doesn't stop then he doesn't really love you.

[shania21096]

Thanks guys your great help

[shania21096]

I really want to save this relashionship its my first real one I love him

[shania21096]

This relashionship means the world to me... he is the only one who trets me the way I should be, its because of him I'm passing school and everything els I love him so much and I am really putting my heart out there for him I really need help

[Aurora_Bell]

Well what else do you need help with?

[shania21096]

I need help with stoping me from being scared to tell him

[Aurora_Bell]

You just have to be honest. WHat are you scared about? Is he abusive? Do you think he will dump you? What about telling himyour feelings scares you? He seems like a really nice guy! It's normal to be nervous when you are confronting someone about a behavior you don't like, but as long as you do it in a non confrontational way, he should really understand that this is something that bothers you.

[shania21096]

I am just scared hell leave me and he is a really nice guy

[Aurora_Bell]

If he does leave you than that means he loves pot more than you. Which also means it wasn't meant to be. You can't put your happiness on the back burner in order to make another person happy. Don't be scared, just be honest. Start by asking him why he smokes pot, then tell him why you don't like it, and ask him if he would ever consider stopping smoking. Tell him it would make you happy to know that he will be much healthier by not smoking it.

[shania21096]

Thank you for your honesty

[ScottGem]

This is your first real relationship so you are scared to let go. This is natural. But you are only 15. You will have many more relationships. Each one will hurt to end and each one will make you stronger.

I think you are more in love with the fact of being in a relationship then you are with the boy. As noted. If he chooses pot over you, then it wasn't a real relationship on his part and you need to end it anyway.

[shania21096]

Think you for answearing me I needed some one like you... :)

[shania21096]

I got to go anyway thank you again