[Mishti08]

Hi
I have been with this guy for past 3 years, and today I feel like I really should have not got into all this. My boyfriend is extremely possessive! He doesn't like me wearing clothes that I like (v neck t shirts or anything that exposes slightest part of chest. Jeans. He sometimes tells me after marriage I should only be wearing saree) He feels other guys check me out, which he doesn't like. We have had so many times on this. Not just that he doesn't want me to work. He tells he doesn't like seeing me stressed.

When I ask him what should I do sitting at home? He says do things that you are interested in. I am interested in dancing, I do lot of classical dance from my childhood. So I told him that I'll do something in dance. He has a problem with that too. He said he doesn't want me to perform or go to some classes or open up some dance class, cause he doesn't like people seeing me dance!

When we fought about this, he put the entire blame on me saying I should have told him that I like dancing and performing when we were getting into this relation, he would have never dated me. Just like this he keeps restricting me in everything I do, and when I try telling him that he's wrong, he blames me for everything and tells me that am lucky to have him, that he's perfect boyfriend. That other guys are worse than him.

He doesn't like me having FB account, he doesn't like me hanging out with my friends, he doesn't introduce me to his friends and many more things like this. To avoid fights I have compromised to many of his conditions. But every time I compromise he comes up with a new condition and fights or stops talking to me. If I don't agree to whatever he says, he stops talking, calling and meeting me. If I question him he says when you are not ready to do something I ask you to do, even I'll not do things that I don't like.

We broke up few times, but it was always me who went back and told him we'll not break up. He never came back. He doesn't talk to me unless I message or call him. He's not the same guy I fell in love with. I don't know him anymore.

Can anybody please help me with this situation of mine? I care for him a lot to let go of him. But am hurt and suffer the same.

[talaniman]

I predict one day you will wake up because you are tired of being miserable, and dump him, and never go back.

I hope you don't marry this idiot and expect things to get better. They don't.