[shawnalee]

I just had a baby, and my boyfriend (baby daddy) of five years, left me for his secretary at work (who is MUCH younger than we are). He said he didn't love me and was in love with her. I'm of course devastated, it's one thing to find out your man is cheating, and how long it's been going on and ANOTHER HUGE blow to find out that he can just walk out, and be in LOVE with a woman who obviously has no self value, or worth, or morals, and values, to even be in the situation. I'm just hurt, lost, and confused.

[odinn7]

Sorry to hear that you're in this situation. The guy is a piece of garbage. Go after him for child support.

[talaniman]

Of course it hurts, but the good news is you are through with this lying cheater, and the jokes on them when you get your court ordered child support, and anything else you deserve to rebuild a good life for your child.

In time you will recover, and be better for this. Good Luck!

[Sumitkumar7266]

It's really painful but you need to get out of this.All the best and wish u happy life:-)

[shawnalee]

I'm trying to stay strong. It is one of the hardest things I've ever had to deal with. This is his first born only child. It blows me out of the water to think he could do this. Then he is so mean to me as if I'm the one who has done something wrong!! He said now when can he take the baby to stay with him & his hooker of a new woman. I said over my dead body... I'll see you in court. It is all just really hard. To think of him out with her having fun, while I have the weight of the world on my shoulders. I'm trying to stop asking myself "why" and "what did I do or not do" UGH

[odinn7]

It's a tough situation and I admire you for having the strength to do what needs to be done.

It may seem like a lot to go through now, and really it is, but in the long run it will be OK. He is a jerk and you're better off without him. It's just too bad that it is now, when there is an innocent baby in the picture, that this had to become obvious.

You'll do OK. Lots of women do it. Just stay strong and believe in yourself. It won't be easy but you can do it.

Good luck!

[shawnalee]

Thanks odinn7... I know that woman go through this all the time and that nobody ever thinks it will happen to them. I guess with the baby especially I'm in shock, and disgusted and SO many overwhelming emotions. One min I'm so mad I'm ready to explode... THEN ashamed and embarrassed.. then so hurt and heartbroken I don't want to get out of bed. I will make it though... I have to. I just thought it was my turn to be happy and have that great life. I feel sorry for my baby, and just wish it would all go away lol... wow It really sounds like I'm having a pity party and maybe I am a little. Thanks.