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Garithas · Feb 12, 2007, 09:11 PM

Hey...

I'm really worried about my friend, and I don't know who to ask about this, so I've turned to you guys in the hope you can help me, I don't know who else to turn to. I'm really worried about my friend. She has been going out with someone for a few months now, and last Friday, she found out that he had been cheating on her. On the same night, he dumped her. Ever since then, she has been horribly depressed and has been starving herself. She's feeling really ill and keeps passing out from lack of energy. I've tried getting her to eat, but the thought of food repulses her. She can't eat or drink. She's destroying herself and I don't know what to do. There's only so much I can do. The guy who broke up with her is now dating the person he was cheating on and seems to be ignoring my friend's self destruction. I'm really worried about her, and I don't know what to do. I couldn't live with myself if anything happened to her, I feel like I need to do something. But what? She's also obviously not over her Ex, she thinks that he'll come back to her. But that could only end Badly. If he cheated on her once, it could happen again. I'm sure she'll get over it eventually, but until then I need her to stop destroying herself, it's making me sick with worry.
Please, please... If you can think of anything I can do to help her... I don't know what to do... I'm worried. Please help me help her.

Thanks for your time, and thank you a thousand times if you can help me in any way.

- Sam

Ging1994 · Feb 12, 2007, 10:23 PM

I've been like that for another reason worse actually but the thing is you have to show your not forcing her to do anything only want what is best for her try and get her to do something to express her pain rather than taking it out on her body like painting drawing or poetry show her she something else to live for that people care about her that you won't leave her and anyone who does is not worth her time

Garithas · Feb 13, 2007, 09:25 AM

Thanks Ging, she went into hospital today. I hope she's going to be all right

J_9 · Feb 13, 2007, 09:31 AM

Garithas,

I am sorry to hear your friend is going through this. However, it is a good thing she went into the hospital before the anorexia literally ate her alive, which is truly what happens with anorexia. It the hospital she will not only get the support and nutrition she needs, but she will learn how to effectively cope with situations such as this.

Although it must be hard on you seeing her like this, understand she is in a good place getting good help. I hope it all works out for her. I wish you both luck and prayers during this hard time.

Garithas · Feb 13, 2007, 11:57 AM

Thank J_9, she was taken to the hospital after passing out again, I'd hate to think what would have happened if she hadn't gotten help soon. I know she'll get good care while in the hospital, all that's left is to see what happens.

J_9 · Feb 13, 2007, 01:35 PM

Yes, now it is simply a waiting game. Not a fun game to play, but hopefully one that she will win.

Garithas · Feb 13, 2007, 08:55 PM

She seems OK now, but her Ex-boyfriend is now being a huge jerk, I was talking to him over MSN and he was being crazy, and not joking around here, he sounds like he needs mental help. After half an hour of talking, he's threatened to come to my house with his friends and "Beat me up". This guy needs mental help! I'm actually worried for this guy, talking to him, there seems to be something wrong with me. I mean for god's sake, he tried to get to me by saying that HE had STDs and laughed at me because of it. That can't be a sign of being Mentally stable. But now I'm worried, he's really angry at me for God knows what. But I live no-where near him. My friend (who he broke up with) however, lives very close nearby. I'm now worried that he's going to do something bad and there's nothing I can do about it. Again, all I can do is wait and hope that he only said these things out of anger; I'm not worried about me, but if he can't get to me... He might take his anger out on my friend.
Sometimes I wonder how these situations start, I mean... I don't even know why he's angry at me. He cheated on my friend and broke up with HER. Now, as a scapegoat, he says it's my fault and that I was the reason he broke up, even though he's never met me. He says that we're in love and that's why he broke up. Apparently (this is actually coming from my friend here) whenever my name was mentioned when they were going out with each other, he'd get kind of angry. I've known my friend for 2 years and we both know full well that we're only friends, but this guy won't listen to reason. >_>
Egh... I'm confused.