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I have been with my girlfriend for almost 5 years and although our relationship has not been perfect we both love each other and always thought we'd end up together. Whenever there was a bump in the relationship we were pretty good at being open with each other and talking it out, compromising and then everything would be fine. Although I mention our imperfections, we also had our times of complete perfection and our relationship was always full of love. Just a few weeks ago, she was unexpectedly let go from her job that she loved. Even though I had given her all of the support I could, it was obvious that she was hurt and feeling scared about the next step. About 2 weeks had gone by and she hadn't worked on finding another job. Trying to help I began to try to lovingly push her to begin looking for another job. Offering up people I knew who could help her with her resume, or help her with recommendation letters, etc. Then, out of nowhere, she talks about going snowboarding with someone I'd never met, and that she had never even mentioned being friends with, at least to me... and she made it clear that I was not invited to go, without flat out saying-"I don't want you to go". Then, each time we were together (alone or in a group) she was constantly on her phone texting. I was feeling she would rather be somewhere else and felt a little weary that she was constantly talking to this person she had never mentioned to me before. I asked her what was up because I was feeling uncomfortable about this mystery person. At my very first inquisition of this person she broke up with me, blaming our relationship. She said we both needed to work on things apart from one another. I suppose its always good to work on yourself, so I believed her reasoning in the moment. However, I've been feeling that the timing was ironic. I have heard that over the 2 weeks that we have been broken up she has hung out with this other person multiple times. I feel she used the problems in our relationship as an out, when really she just wanted to be free to see this other person. I honestly have no evidence that my intuition about her and this other person are true and it may just be my mind going crazy, but when you have a gut feeling like this, I usually find it to be true-unfortunately. As hurt/sad/confused/angry as I have been over the past 2 weeks, I still love her and think about her non-stop. I'm hoping she is just going through something stemming from her job loss and she will figure it all out and come back to me. Should I try contacting her? Am I stupid for thinking this way? Any advice would help.