[teeny94]

I have never really been able to trust my boyfriends. I am 24 and am from an unstable family which broke up because my father had an affair. I've never actually been cheated on by a serious boyfriend as far as I know. I split up with my live in partner one year ago partially because I was too insecure and it drove him mad. I have had a new boyfriend for three months now and he is really nice to me. I can't stress how nice. The more I like him the more worried I become about trust.

He has lots of female friends, and meets girls for drinks he only met online - which he says is because he has few friends and it is easy to meet them that way. He is also friends with an ex girlfriend he wants to come and stay with him for the weekend. He fantasises about sleeping with other girls and talks about having sex with ex girlfriends when we are in bed.

I guess from reading my responses that I should mention the reasons to trust him too - he stated he would never cheat on me, he cancelled his ex and the girl from online (for now) for me without my asking when I said it made me uncomfortable. He is soooo sweet to me.

Phew - I don't know what to do. I guess if he didn't want me he wouldn't be with me, and he was friends with his ex before I came along. Should I just let go of my fears and completely trust him? Or is this too dangerous a relationship for someone like me?

Thanks for reading this lengthy question! Hope you can help :)

[saraispiel19]

Hellooooooooooo get out of thαt relαtionship! He's obviously giving you CLEAR signαls thαt he does/ is/ or will cheαt on you.. you sαid "...He fαntαsises αbout sleeping with other girls αnd tαlks αbout hαving sex with ex girlfriends when we αre in bed". Your 24 right? Well stαrt αcting your αge your not α high school pimple fαced girl αnymore-- get αwαy from thαt creep. Omg this isn't even α question --open your eyes... he's just hαppy to hαve α go-to girl (you) from the wαy you describe him... αnd to completely trust him is utterly α b s you are d since he's bound to do something! Girl wαke up--he's not αny help to your 'feαrs' he's α downfαll!!

[TheSavage]

I agree with Sarai, you have trust issues already and he does not strike me as trustworthy from your post.
Him and his ex have never heard of putting her up in a hotel ?

[Ash123]

Part of getting what you want in life is knowing that the easy way is not always the best way. I think your GUT is telling you the answer! But your insecurity and self-esteem are asking you to question it. Meeting girls online when you have a girlfriend is not good for you, him or your relationship OR your self-esteem. You are young and if you find a man with more character you will be proud later - for the pain for now. You had a tough childhood, and my heart goes out to you. The best way to not repeat dysfunction (which is VERY common when introduced in youth) is to acknoweledge it and demand better. And make sure your friends demand better. WHo we surround ourselves with says A LOT about us. You are poised for a great life. Be gutsy. Rewards will follow.