[Mish_Mishka]

Typically before you start a relationship with someone you go on many dates right? Well not my boyfriend and I. We only went on one date before getting together. He's one of the sweetest men I know and I'm 19, he's 21. So not that much of an age difference. He's got more friends then me and likes to go out with them. I mean it's his life but I'm in it to and he never wants to go out with me.

All we ever do is stay at his house in bed either playing games watching a movie or having intercourse. We don't ever go out unless it's to the 7 eleven or rite aid. I end up feeling used and hurt whenever I get back home. Mostly cause when we're apart and he's with his friends he'll text me that he's drinking up in the hills or he's busting a mission with his friend to a gig or something.

Hearing things like this from him makes me cringe. It's like why can't we ever do things like that? So my question is there any way to get him to do things with me?

I've already tried asking/begging him and he'll say he's down but then when the time comes he just ignores it and we end up sitting at his house. Also we are both unemployed and he is on food stamps. I don't want to do anything with money. Simple things I want him to do with me like Hiking, Riding bikes, Enjoying a day at the park and even the weekly farmers market that is held in my city.

He's really sweet and I see potential in him, I don't want to just let this one go.

[Abstractist]

I don't think you can do much else, but maybe the reason why he doesn't like going out with you is because he is ashamed of you. I suggest talking with him about your relationship and asking him why he doesn't enjoy spending time with you.

[Wondergirl]

As long as you put up with his neglect, that's what he's going to dish out. Set some boundaries. Don't go to his place or have him over to yours, or, if you are together and he wants to do his usual bedroom scene, excuse yourself ("No, thanks") and go home.

You will be emotionally abused as long as you allow it. If he is so sweet, he will wake up and smell the coffee once he sees you've set some boundaries and built some fences.

[Homegirl 50]

You need to stop having sex with him. That seems to be what your relationship is based on.
If he is not doing something you want or is doing something you don't want, stop allowing it. He plays and goes out with his friends and has sex with you. That is not cool. Stop allowing it.

[odinn7]

He's using you and he is going to keep using you until you put a stop to it.

[talaniman]

If you aren't happy, and feel used, why keep doing it? Get some friends who do things you like, and you won't have to give him sex to keep him. That's what it amounts to.