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    Dec 19, 2011, 08:03 AM
    Should I fight for him?
    My boyfriend of 2 years went away on exchange for 4 months. About 2 months in, I broke up with him because I was feel so good here by myself. I was doing a lot more and I felt like I was living for me. About 2 weeks later I knew it was the wrong decision but decided to wait until he returned to tell him.
    He came back a few days ago and we met up for coffee. I poured my heart out, telling him that I still loved him and wanted nothing more than another opportunity. I told him that regardless of the past this was where I was now and that I was going to fight for him, but would respect his decision if he asked me to stop.
    He then told me that he had been seeing someone the last month he was away. It hurts like nothing ever has before. I don't know what to do.

    I then rearended someone driving home. I feel so guilty and stupid. I'm a new driver and I just feel like such an idiot.
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    Dec 19, 2011, 11:31 AM
    If you truly love him, you should fight for him. Don't ever give up on someone you love, for you may lose them forever if you do give up. Just give him time with this other woman. Be there for him and show him you're there for him no matter what. I know it's difficult watching someone you love be in the arms of someone else, but there isn't much else you can do except wait.
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    Dec 19, 2011, 01:55 PM
    Thank you. I know waiting is the only option I have left. I can't help beating myself for waiting to tell him how I felt. How do I show him that I'm there for him without being overbearing? Yesterday was a lot for him, I was borderline hysterical and made a royal fool of myself, but I laid it all out there. There is no way he will have any doubts with regards to how I feel. He is home for the holidays and comes back in January. He said we would talk then, I'm terrified that in January I will hear the worst news of all. Hearing he isn't in love with me hurt, but hearing that he is done and doesn't want anything more than friends might kill me.
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    Dec 19, 2011, 03:01 PM
    Okay, what I would do if I were you is wait until January to confront him. Once he talks to you about your relationship, tell him EXACTLY how you feel and how you don't want to be done with each other. Be completely honest and expect that he will be honest with you :) Good luck. Pray.

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