[Feelingsadd]

I was in a long distance relationship for 8 months. I did see him a few times everything was fine.

A few months after we were dating we were talking about coming here for a couple of days, he came up with the idea... if I loved him to send him a one-way ticket and stupid I am... I went and did it. Couple of days before he was going to come visit me, he said he can't make it, his work is too busy. I canceled it for him, and things went fine... Till he had to travel somewhere else... (his ex girlfriend lives there) he said it was a meeting he had to attend through the sports he does.

I just asked him... I just feel uneasy your that ex lives there. And he says he didn't even meet her... then I asked if he used up his credit and he says no. That was that till he came down with his sports team I met him Friday and he kept saying he's leaving back Monday... I met him Fri, Sat, and Sun.

I was waiting for his phone call and finally in the evening I called his hotel, he already signed out! I was surprised! I emailed him for days and I didn't get an email back! (he doesn't have a cell) and finally he sent me an email after so many of my emails. He did say sorry!

Went fine after that till over a month ago, he started ignoring me again... he said its because of his work, and he's stressed! I started texting him every other day till about a 2 weeks ago. We decided I'll go and see him. It was all fine, then again no emails... till a couple of days after I saw he was out with friends at some concert.

I was a bit annoyed and sent him a few emails that maybe offended him... and he emails me saying maybe I shouldn't come. I was like oh ****! A couple of days later when I was going to book my flight I decided to use up the credit, and called the airlines and the agent tells me its been already used... by him to the destination that he told me he didn't use it to (where his ex lives).

He had so many chances to tell me the truth! I sent him a message on Facebook and he didn't reply, then I sent another nasty message and deleted him off my Facebook and he blocked me! I've sent so many nasty emails and all those emails are probably going to junk mail on his side. I didn't get one email from him!

Sometimes I'm fine but sometimes I miss him so much! :(

[vanheart]

Forget him.

You want him, he doesn't. He has proved it.

Don't be one of those girls that keeps bugging a guy. Your are on the verge of stalking.

That's lame.

Calling hotels & airlines trying to hunt him down. Ewww...

Hes got a girlfriend.

Are you that desperate?

What do you miss?
Missing doesn't serve anyone.

[Feelingsadd]

At the time he didn't have a girlfriend maybe now he does!
I guess I miss the way we met and the promises that were made... for the future. Marriage kids living together... but I know it's like stalking if I start emailing and calling. But he also lied! And that's what's got me mad

Hotel calling part was he told me he's going back mon afternoon and that he'll call me sun after his game, so we can go out! Calling the airlines was because I wanted to book my flight to go see him. And I decided to use up the credit that I had cancelled for him the one he said more than once he didn't us. And I find out last week, he used it up to go to another destination. I know he went there... I asked him if he's used it he simply says No! And after that he had numerous times to tell me the truth! I don't know about any girlfriend maybe now, he's been acting really weird since his work closed down and that was over a month ago. And what's really sad is he doesn't have a cell phone so I have his email and his home phone where he's never home. I don't know if I'm heart broken or just really mad because he lied to me!

[LetDown]

I hate to say it, but you sound a little clingy. What did you think was going to happen when you sent all those nasty messages to him? Has he ever lied before this? Do something to occupy yourself when he doesn't answer back.. I don't think this relationship is going to work out.. Don't you have any friends you can talk to? I don't think he is deserving of you though, move on! I mean if you really did have an emergency and he just ignored you then he doesn't care about you that much does he? I recommend just ending all contact with him starting now. If he really loves you then he'll come to you.

[Feelingsadd]

Thanks letdown
It's a long distance relationship, everything seemed to be fine up till mid November.
He had lots of opportunities to tell me the truth, the ticket credit was for him tto use. I even sent him the flight locator number in October when he said he will come see me in October and he didn't say anything about using the credit in sept to his other destination. He canceled to come see me in oct... I didn't bother to ask November. And I never had this problem but long distance and he doesn't have a cell! Couple of weeks ago I sent him an email saying I'm going to use the flight credit before it expires and again he didn't say nothing about using it up. I found that on my own when the airline agent said its been used up in sept. I was in a relationship before, and he would lye a lot so I guess... I've get haunted from the past.
I guess your right... it did seem I was clingy... but it had to do a lot with him not having a cell phone. Mid November he didn't reply for 2.5 weeks. Then a week later after those weeks. I did send him earlier today... an apology email, don't think he'll even read it, the email wasn't at all mushy... prob all my other emails went straight to his junk mail.
Do u think... in long run he'll even talk to me?

[LetDown]

I don't think this guy is worth your time if he lied like that, I recommended letting him go and moving on. And him ignoring you like that? That's just awful! There are guys out there that don't lie and won't hurt you, you just have had some bad luck finding one, but you will eventually find one! I promise!

[talaniman]

Let him go, and ignore him if he does try to come back.

[Feelingsadd]

Thanks talaniman and letdown~ Yes I'll try my best to ignore him, I don't even think he misses me! Because I haven't got no message email from him! :(
Just sometimes I miss him... why do most guys act so childish? Even when we used to talk it was all about him!

[vanheart]

"He had lots of opportunities to tell me the truth"

That says it all. More about you & who you decide to get with.

"when we used to talk it was all about him"

Let this user go. Not worth your thoughts.

[Feelingsadd]

After breaking up with your loved one... the guy wants you and calls you constantly every time. And you don't want none of that.
After he stops calling etc, few days or month later... you miss him... does that happen? Where the other person realizes they miss you but later?

[Fr_Chuck]

NO, normally they figure you are not interested, or get tired of rejection. ( or fear of restraining order) and just move on.

At this point, it is normally just over.

[Feelingsadd]

I guess unless u show some attention later

[talaniman]

Sometimes all they want is attention, and nothing more. But hard not to think back after a while and wonder what if. Its normal, but only lasts until you get up a do something.

[vanheart]

All this guy wants is attention & options.
All at his discretion. Hes a user.

Remove yourself from him for good & you won't have to worry.

That means stop even thinking about him. Try.

Look out for people like that later. They are trouble.

[Feelingsadd]

Thank you for helping me out! I closed all contact with him. Its not easy... I'll take it one day at a time...

[vanheart]

Good. Make sure that you keep that up.
Just know that being in contact with him isn't good.

Go have some fun.