[Karategirl21]

I met this guy my first day at college, walking to tech support. We became fast friends, and over the next few months, I started to really like him. He's even helped me through some issues pertaining to my ex, who I'm completely over now. But I've been hiding my feelings for him a little bit, because back in October, I found out he had a "girl at home". "Home" is about 2 1/2 hours from the college (and where I live). Then in November, I found out that was just guy talk and he really didn't. So yesterday (we're on Christmas break now and have been chatting on Facebook pretty regularly) I asked him over Facebook really casually if he had a girlfriend. He said, "No, I'm currently in the process of trying to catch her attention." Then, the other day over Facebook, I was telling him that my ex was being clingy and that I'm so ready to move on. He asked me if I had someone in mind, and I told him Yes but I don't know if he likes me back. Then he said, well good luck with him. He's really a nice guy. He's smart, funny, everything a girl could want. And he's a really good friend who I know a lot of people through. Should I tell him how I feel, or should I just keep my feelings to myself?

[Fr_Chuck]

Ask him out on a date, don't talk about feelings, just ask him out.

[talaniman]

I think you let things develop naturally, and see how things go, before you go confessing your heart to any guy.

Start with small things and see if its grows because lets not forget the guy talk stuff. Make sure he is as available as you want him to be and what's this clingy stuff about the ex?

You may give him the impression that after some time the clingy ex may lure you back. That's a big turn off. Facebook is great for friends, but the more direct face to face, or the phone, may get you further.

But I'm old school.

[dregger123]

Best thing to do is just be yourself.. and take it all with a pinch of salth to be honest :) No-one can ask you to be any different right? :)

[Karategirl21]

Well the whole ex thing... it's kind of complicated. But basically me and my last boyfriend decided to remain friends because we see each other at karate. We dated for about a year before he broke up with me in march of last year(for seemingly no reason. I think it was a combination of things). I didn't talk to him for a while, then we slowly started talking and hanging out again. Well a few weeks ago, he tells me that he's deciding between me and another girl. Sounded like an easy decision to me. We've known each other for five years and he'd met the other girl on a mission trip in October, and she lives two hours away. Well then he tells me he's choosing the other girl. I was pissed at first, then realized it was in character for him to do this and decided I really needed to move on this time. Then, the past couple of weeks, since I've moved on, he's started getting clingy and touchy. I'm honestly tired of it lol. So that's where I'm at now.

I was thinking about the fact that the ex thing could play into his decision. It was fairly recent, but I've also made it clear that I'm tired of being played like that and I've reached my limit with it. I think I'll just let things progress naturally. But that whole thing with my ex is in the past. I'm moving on now, and I told him so. And yes I normally talk to him in person but the fact that we're on winter break and the fact that he lives two hours away prevents me from doing much else. I could call him, but he's generally busy a lot of the time, so it's hit or miss with the phone. And he's old school and doesn't have texting.

But I'm pretty sure he's clueless so I'm just going to continue to cultivate the friendship, amybe flirt a little bit and see where it leads. We have only known each other for a few months, and I get the impression he's known the other girl longer. But he's eventually going to get tired of chasing something that doesn't want to be chased and that will be my opportunity to strike :D

[Karategirl21]

But see, the thing about me is I'm very loyal, and this goes double for who I'm dating. So if me and him started dating, I wouldn't think about my ex or any other guy "that way" unless of course, he did something to lead us to break up. That's just how I am. My ex is just a playa and I nearly fell in the trap again. That's not going to happen anymore lol.

[talaniman]

But no way a stranger would know that, is there? Only time would give him that clue about you.

[Karategirl21]

That is true. I'd just better not tell him for now. Wait at least a few months, when this whole thing with my ex is forgotten lol.

[Meme.net]

I think you should tell him how you feel, and if he doesn't feel the same way then you would still be friends. So worst thing that would happen is that you too still stay close friends, and best is that you'd become a couple :)

[dregger123]

At the end of the day, asking him out's going to be the bottom line. Just make sure he treats you good :)