[Montty]

I have known a guy for over 10 years. We have a history together. Yes, we loved each other, but years ago I got into another relationship with another man whom I loved dearly, but my ex and I still kept in contact. Anyway, he still loved me even though he didn't agree with my being with someone else. He told me all the time how much I hurt him. I just found out he got married to another woman, his ex, who had cheated on him. I am so mad and hurt about this.

Help me understand!

[Wondergirl]

I'm glad you came to this site. Some really great people will reply to your question and help you through this.

As a side note, I edited your post to make it more understandable and not in texting. We would appreciate it if you wrote so all of us over 40 can understand. Please tell me if I missed an important point when I edited.

[Montty]

Thank you. Sorry about that.

[talaniman]

Because you had history and stayed in contact you thought it would last forever, and when he moved on with his life, you were angry, and need time to adjust properly.

How dare he move on before you were ready right? Even though you had someone else? Shock will do that, but time will bring you back to reality, if you leave each other alone and let the emotional dust settle by carrying on with your life without him.

Takes time, especially after all the history you had. ACCEPT IT!