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ThairusQueen · Dec 13, 2011, 08:22 PM

My daughter is four years old and her father has never seen her. He walked away when I was about five months pregnant, quit his job and left the state. Refusing to do anything for her every time I asked. He told me to take him to court, where he asked for a Dna test. Of course she is his. He still refuses to see her and he went back to court lying saying that he served me. They went ahead with the case saying I just didn't show up so he now pays $17.29 in childsupport. He has never seen her and refuses to. I want the childsupport case over and his rights taken away. I live in new York and I don't even know where he is. What can I do

Fr_Chuck · Dec 13, 2011, 08:39 PM

There is nothing you can do. You can not take his rights away. You can file a motion to over turn his last case based on fraud. Since he can not prove you were served by any court approved process server. I find it funny the court just took his word on this. There is proper procedure to follow.

So you find out where he is working and prove he has income over what sounds like no income. Of course if he has no income, often there is not actual hearings on child support, but merely papers filed proving income.

But rights are not taken away, esp from no contact, He is not getting in the way, he is not visiting, and you can not force him to visit. You also can not just take his rights away.

ThairusQueen · Dec 13, 2011, 08:44 PM

I don't want to force him to visit, I gave up on contacting him. He is the one who wanted to go to court for what ever reason. But I don't want the support because its like a joke. 17 dollars can't help in anyway. Its cost 200 dollars a week for her school alone. I have no idea what state he is in and no way to find that out. I think its better that there is no case at all, that way someone can really step in and be that male figure that every child needs in their life

Fr_Chuck · Dec 13, 2011, 09:05 PM

I am sorry, did not mean that YOU wanted him, it was an expression that you can not force a man to be a dad or father, they may be one on paper but not in real life.

It is basically out of the child's life, so often it is best to let it go and be that way.

ThairusQueen · Dec 13, 2011, 09:13 PM

Its OK. I think that's why I want to just end it all. She is my youngest child so I know whet a good father is. I am very much in love and will be getting married in about a year. My fiancé has been taking care of her like she is his. Does everything for her and he wants to be able to make decisions for her well being. I have been in an accident had one surgery and so far am due for another one. I need for him to be able to handle things without the fact that he isn't her bio and that he isn't on her birth certificate. I am the only parent on the birth certificate any. I'm at a loss right now