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foreveralone · Dec 13, 2011, 08:52 AM

Well, I saw a girl on one of my friend's Facebook album, liked her, and eventually fell in love. It's been more than a couple of months. The period sounds to be quite short, but I'm going through a very hard time. I had hopes for her, until I hacked into my friend's profile and knew that she has a boyfriend, and is a year older than me. Before, I sent her three messages telling how I feel, and was blocked, and I think her boyfriend saw the messages. I became very sad after getting blocked.

I added up one of her friends and messaged him saying how I feel about her, and that I became emo and stuffs. He said that she has a boyfriend and is very happy with the relationship, and that if she unblocked me, her boyfriend would get angry.

My sister, knowing all these from a friend of mine who I share all my secrets with, messaged the girl and even she was blocked.

Now, the thing is, I can't really think about anything else than her, and doing stupid stuffs like cutting myself, not studying, listening to emo songs for hours, and similar stuffs. I know I'm destroying myself, but I can't really stop it.

I know if I really love her, I should be happy that she's happy with her relationship. But I can't really help. It really hurts that I never got any reply for her, and that I just got straight blocked. And I really don't want to disturb her, but again, I can't really help, I'm dying here.

Can anyone of you tell me what to do? I tried forgetting her, but I don't think it's possible.

talaniman · Dec 13, 2011, 11:58 AM

Its possible to get over a one sided obsession, as this is not a love, but something you have latched onto, because you hope/think it will make you feel better. It didn't, and no doubt, you are in pain because of it.

But I think you make this the point of a greater frustration and need within yourself, and your life and may need some counseling to guide you through the process of identifying, and coping with loss, and pain causing frustrations. Normally I would just advise you be good to yourself, and have fun with family, and friends, and activities to make you happy, but I think you can benefit from talking to someone about your deeper needs, and frustrations also.

Just curious as to what else is going on in your life that's bad enough for you want to harm yourself? How old are you? How long have you been cutting? Who else knows? Please add some information, so maybe we can steer you to the right help, and get you some better coping tools, and strategies.

No need to be trapped in misery. There is help out there for you.

foreveralone · Dec 13, 2011, 12:02 PM

I am 17, and I cut myself only once. I know it's lame, but I don't know why I did it. I just can't get over it.

talaniman · Dec 13, 2011, 12:55 PM

Sure you can, maybe not all by yourself, but a parent, or trusted teacher, a minister, or even your family doctor can help immensely. What else is going on in your life besides her?

Homegirl 50 · Dec 13, 2011, 03:45 PM

You are obsessed and with the cutting you need a bit of counseling.
Talk to a profession he/she can help you deal with these feelings you are having.

vanheart · Dec 13, 2011, 10:58 PM

You never had anything with this girl.

Stop tripping. Get out more. Meet more people.

Expand your horizons. You have many years ahead. Not everything works out as planned.

That's the way it is.

You can always talk here.

Jakeanswers123 · Aug 4, 2012, 12:56 PM

Hey man I'm in the same situation as you I know exactly how you feel but its not true that they will be together forever and she hasn't actually physically wanted to block you it was more for her boyfriend so I'd say just try to slowly move on but if she become's available then go for ittt!! Life's too short to be sad man make the most of it :) hope this helped