[jpbon]

Let me just start by saying that me and this girl have been very close friends for over 4 years now. For example we go to concerts together, we were planning on going on a trip next next year.

Last month me and her were at a bar having a few drinks, we went out side to talk and she just started kissing me out of no where. Well we talked for a bit that night and she stated that she has wanted to do to ask me out for a while now and with both of us being in relationships over the past few years that the time was never right. Which makes sense, I had told her more or less the same thing as it had been on my mind for quite some time. We have always been the honest to each other, and coming to each others aide when needed.

This is where it gets odd, ever since that night I haven't been able to get a few words out of her. We have hung out a couple of times since then but not nearly as much, when we do hang out she barely talks to me. Most days I send her a text in the AM and say Good morning, but never hear back from her, which honestly isn't very abnormal. I ask her how her day is going, only once in the past couple of weeks has she responded, she said 3 words and stopped. Every few weekends we usually go to a friends house and play cards but I found out they did this without me. Its just the normal things we have normally been doing for years that all of a sudden it stops and is making me think I did something wrong.

The last time I attempted to talk to her was Friday when were supposed to take a small trip out of the state for the night but to no avail. I had figured she wanted some time to figure stuff out and didn't attempt to contact her all weekend, but when I found out that her and our friends were hanging out this weekend (Note she is usually the one to contact me to hang out) it got me thinking I've done something wrong but don't understand what. I want to contact her about it but with her no responding to me, I don't know if she would even give an inkling of what's going on.

[talaniman]

Last month me and her were at a bar having a few drinks,

Wish I had a dime for every misunderstanding that comes from being a bit tipsy.

Either she wants a more definite reaction, or she is rethinking her drinking decision, maybe she was caught up in the moment.

You have been friends for 4 years and should be able to talk so do that. Where there was confusion, clear it up, face to face. You have questions... ASK them.

She has much to explain.

[Ice_Princess]

At first it seemed like she was nervous. All of the sudden, you and her are romantic. She could be wondering how she should act around you now and what in your relationship has changed. But when you got to the cards part... that's cutting you out of her life, which foreshadows break-ups. If that's what she is going to do, are you prepared? Or are you going to regret it because you feel like you didn't do all you could to prevent it, by telling her that you really like her (instead of going, "yeah, I've been kind-of feeling the same way lately.") and that you're glad that the relationship has taken this step. Make sure you don't have any regrets, if the worst should happen. The last thing you want is to have something to mull and wonder, "what-if?" over.

So she could be avoiding you because she was drunk and regrets starting this type of relationship with you, or because when she kissed you that's when she fell out of love with you and is not looking forward to newly dumping you.

On the other hand, now you two have a romantic relationship, she could be trying to play the games she thinks she's supposed to play. Like, avoiding hanging out so that you miss/like her even more, because it gives you the chase.

Either or neither way, you know this girl. Or should know her by now. The only way to clear it all up is to have a face-to-face conversation. Make sure you both lay out your guts. You're best friends, so even if the worst happens, you know you'll be all right. Since the trouble seems to be that you can't get her to have this important save-your-sanity conversation, how about asking for some intervention from family or other friends? People close to her could get her somewhere where'll you'll be and skedaddle away so you two can have your talk. Maybe give her a little bit a of time before going to those measures, because maybe she's trying to gather her thoughts before she talks to you. But you certainly shouldn't have to wait too long, because no one should have to go through worry like that for very long. It would drive them/you crazy! (don't go crazy)