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Motshidisi · Dec 11, 2011, 05:31 AM

Greetings all

I am still in love with a guy I met 3 years ago, it's been long since I saw him but I think about him everyday, we had this strong connection, we just sparked nut failed to talk and it was love at first sight, that momment was just so sweet but I don't know if this is normal. Please help me what must I do? Are there chances that we will meet? I had the time of my life, is it because he was my first? I'm really struggling to get over him.

luluu · Dec 11, 2011, 10:53 AM

Wow! 3 years? I would say it's unusual but not abnormal. How old are you? Because that may be a factor. I think this is more likely to happen if you are younger. Don't waste your time and your life for someone you haven't seen or spoken to in years. If you have a way of getting in touch you could try that and see if he feel the same way. If not then stop this now! Maybe you are a little scared of having a real relationship?

Rkanovac77 · Dec 11, 2011, 02:28 PM

It is normal. The love can be very strong with some people... especially with people of your age.
Chance to meet him? Yes if you have contact now... if you don't, then you can work to make a contact. For more help, more details needed.
Good luck.

talaniman · Dec 11, 2011, 03:20 PM

Considering what you have gone thru/and going through with the latest guy, its normal to think of a happier time in your life, because almost anything is better than what you have now.

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Be warned though that this flash from the past isn't realistic, just a bright spot to make you feel better now.

vanheart · Dec 11, 2011, 05:12 PM

Its normal to think back, as long as you don't stay there.

Live for the now & the future. Re-create those happy feelings. In everything you do.

But don't wait around for your first love. I meet girls way older that still pine over that.

I run away.

Fr_Chuck · Dec 11, 2011, 05:19 PM

What happens is that when things are bad in one, we often just remember the good of another relationship and forget the other issues. You did not mention if you even dated or where with this person you were in "love" with.

But if you want to contact him, look him up, and give him a call,

Jake2008 · Dec 12, 2011, 06:36 AM

A good way to try to measure this question, is, how is he affecting your life.

To feel love, is not the same thing as having love. Is it more that first impression, the first experience with him, the memories, etc.

You may always have a soft spot for him, much like a first love in high school, but as life goes on, as it has for you, three years of being in love with a memory, may be preventing you from enjoying new relationships, and when you do meet someone new, would he ever measure up?

Letting go of a relationship is one thing, letting go of the memory is another. It isn't any different really than a widower who marries again, but keeps all the pictures of his deceased wife up. The new wife is then living with two people. Even though the pictures are just memories.

It typically takes a year to really recover from a relationship, and for you, it has been three. And it wasn't really a relationship in the sense of a long term comittment.

Maybe some counselling?