[paul_harrison]

And she never has time to be with us kids or dad and she thinks that she should always be at work to earn a living when quite frankly we could live off dads income and when she does come home she is always sitting at her computer desk either sending invoices or paying bills or looking at all the dresses she could buy(when she buys a dress she only wears it once) and she also has so many accounts with lots of different amounts of money in them, when dad goes to buy something, 8 out of 10 of the times it says it is declined with lack of money in it and it makes him really angry and he says"we both earn a good living so where is all our money" and they do both earn a good living and they have just recently finished paying off the mortgage so they can save money but mum does not even have a savings account and she is always stressed and cranky and dad says she is going through menopause and this is what her problem is but I think she is just stressed about not having enough money and is always at work earning money and I think all of her invoices added up to about 6'000 dollars she just sent out and she has a good accountant so she hardly pays any tax(she is self employed) so I don't know why she thinks she always has to be at work but I think she means well earning he family a good income but this is always stressing her out and sometimes I just wish she just had a normal office job working 9-5 every day apart from weekend and earn hardly anything compared to what she is on now and even on holidays she has to bring her laptop do do work and this is slowly making dad turn away from her because he thinks she has run off with somebody else(she comes home 4 out of the 7 days she works every week she comes home at about 7 clock at night) and the only reason they are still together is because of us kids, is there any way to get them to love each other again and get mum to stop working so hard and spend some family time with all of us?
Please help...

[DoulaLC]

Hi Paul,

How old are all the kids? Would it be possible to hold a family meeting so that everyone could talk about it? Maybe she feels that she is helping and if she stops it would make things difficult for the family. She may really enjoy working, but doesn't realise how it effects the rest of you and might be willing to cut her hours or switch to something part-time instead.

Do you know if your dad has tried talking to her? Maybe they have some problems between them that the need to resolve?

You could try writing her a letter yourself to share how you feel.