[samcarter]

I'm a 30 yr old girl and got into a relationship with married lady, she had a 5 yr old son too. Thing were great in the beginning and I slowly I grew possessive of her. She wanted to divorce her husband too as he use to cheat on her. But, he forcefully took her to other city on business purpose. We were in communication there too and she promised she would leave him. But, things got worst as he separated both mother and child. Her son stayed with her parents. She convinced him slowly to go back to her son. He spoilt my reputation everywhere. He told me he had my video with his wife and would show it to both her and mine parents. When she called me last she said she won't know whether she'll be able to contact me again or not and she told me she's giving me up for her child. I'm OK with everything except I can't bear to loose my friendship too. I don't know whether this was a lesbian relationship or not because, it was a one time thing with a woman. I have had relationship with guys earlier. I just can't forget her and forgive her husband. I too want to go far from them but, just want to keep on hearing her voice. She's one person who cared for me a lot. I love her. I still do and it hurts.

[smoothy]

Do what I would tell any other person to do... walk away... they weren't yours in the first place as they were already married.

Simple as that... you have no choice. Next time.. don't mess with anyone that is attached in any way to someone else.

No its not easy... but as an adult many things you will have to do are not easy... this is one of them.

[ThankYouBelarus]

That is really rough. I have to be honest, this doesn't sound like a healthy situation. It also sounds like she made a decision and you need to respect it. It can be hard when you feel like someone was, in a way, your whole world, and now you have to recreate your world.

I agree with smoothy, a relationship that begins with cheating starts with a disadvantage. Emotional cheating can be just as damaging, in my experience. Take a break, rediscover your life without her. Just focus on the here and now and not on what you had or didn't have.

Best of luck.