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    Dec 7, 2011, 01:38 AM
    Old feelings for ex boyfriend
    Hi, I am divorced after 20years and have been in a relationship with a man for 6 years now. I just moved out of my partners house just recently, personal reasons, and now my son is living with me and my relationship with my partner of 6 years is complicated and not a 100% happy with everything. I have looked up old friends on Facebook and found my ex boyfriend, who is also now divorced.

    We met when I was 17 and I am now 49, I left him after a couple of months, he didn't want it and neither did I. I left because of a stupid reason, his ex girlfriend wanted to beat me up and I got scared off. I left a message on his Facebook saying it was good to see you again and he replied and said lets stay in touch and I agreed, I can't stop thinking about him and want to see him again and he is a wonderful man and funny and my cousin caught up with him at their school reunion and started talking about him saying he is still a lovely man in every way and she suggested we all get together again.

    I'm all for it but I'm feeling bad for my partner that I am with now, as my partner now has helped me in so many ways and now I'm feeling guilty, but I still have these strong feeling for my ex boyfriend of over 30 years. What can I do? Please help me. D
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    Dec 7, 2011, 12:10 PM
    Handle your relationship issues, before you go following intense feelings for another, would be the fair, honest way to go about things.
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    Dec 8, 2011, 01:31 AM
    Don't live in the past. Look ahead, not behind.
    Just be concerned with you.

    Give yourself some time to settle. Lots...
    Calling up old Bfs from 30 years ago. C'mon.

    First things first.
    No knee jerks again. Please.
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    Jan 2, 2012, 12:21 PM
    I think you should have a friendly met up with him and if the two of yours feelings are the same they were a long time ago then its destiny, and you of course would have to break-up with your current partner of course it would make you fell guilty but it would be worse if you stayed

    If yous do have a friendly meeting and your feelings are mutral then stay with your partner, mabe spice things up , have a romantic dinner , go to places use have alwas wanted to go, or do things yous onl ever done when use first met, get the chemistry back in there, good luck love
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