[sjcruz]

HE is my boyfriend for 9 years... More than a year ago, I noticed his changes... No time for me, no messages or calls sometimes in 2 to 10 days. There was even a month that he left and went to a province and did not communicate to me at all. These happened from (May 2010 - May 2011)

Last February 2011, I met my first boyfriend (3rd year HS, but broke up in four days only). He courted me from June to September, and I answered him Oct. 1, but lasted at the day of my birthday. Since then, after graduation, our ways did not cross anymore, only until April 16.

My first boyfriend, is now very interested to see me, to talk to me, and be with me as time allows. I was beginning to like him, though, I still love my boyfriend. February, March, April, May when my boyfriend has no time for me... There is one person, who is requesting always to see me. How ironic it is that, I want to be with my boyfriend, but he has no time for me, then here is my first boyfriend, trying to win my heart.

My biggest fault in my life: my first boyfriend became my boyfriend, too... October 2011

When my 9-year boyfriend noticed my changes as I no longer beg for his presence, he was able to get my fon, and read my inbox. There he discovered that there is one guy, trying to make me happy. And from then on, my boyfriend became my stalker. He is investigating me. He will call where I am, then I will discover he is in the same place, waiting for me. Afraid of what will happened, I broke up with my first boyfriend. He did not accept it. The fact that I love him, for him, is enough. At that time, I'm not yet doing anything stupid, what I mean to say, in my hearts are two, but only one in my body, I'm not yet 'dating romantically' with my first HSbf.

November - he went to our house, drunk, and when was not allowed to enter our house, he throw stones in our roof and windows, then he destroyed our water facility. Three days, we get water from our neighbor.

December - my boyfriend caught me in my firstHSbf's car on my way home.

He get a big stone and stand in front of the car to stop it.
He cursed him. He cursed me.
He asked me to stepped out. I did.
He blew me off. Three times! I passed out.
My first HSbf brought me to the nearest hospital. Police nearby arrived. He was detained with the help of some people who witnessed what have happened. The chief police officer after four hours called me if I will charge him. I said no, and let him out.

Now, I have pelvic muscle and pain, bruises on my arms, legs, aching knees and swollen head.. Was not able to go to work... And most of all, afraid of him. I have loved him so much and has been loyal in nine years, I forgave him many times in all of his shortcomings, lies and the like. But in all of that, regardless of having his own life and time sometimes, he - as my boyfriend, is, supportive, loving, kind to me, and to my family, thoughtful, helps me even little, to some of my short-finances. I never thought those years of happiness will turned as bad as what is happening now.

My question now? Can I be able to go away from him? I know, he will not stop here. If you will ask me, do I still love him? Painfully, my answer is no, even without my first HSbf around. In fact, I requested him stay away from me for the mean time, but he said no. I'am also afraid what my boyfriend will do to him.

I love to hear your insights, comments and advises.

Thank you.
Whiterose

[talaniman]

Sorry for your experience, but the fool is dangerous, and should have been charged. If he did not learn and makes trouble, make sure he is charged and pays the price.

Protect yourself at all times, and be safe. Good Luck.

[geminichick]

Number one, nothing you could have said or done should provoke any man do commit such acts of violence. I absolutely agree that he should have been charged, but you really get a protection order so that he can not come near you or on you property nor come near you child. This guy has serious issues until he realizes he needs help there is nothing you can do. There are wonderful resource centers out there that will provide counselling and help to you. YOu don't have to be alone, even though you feel alone and very scared. Show this man you have had enough and you will no longer tolerate him harassing you and abusing you. Enough is enough and no man is going to take away your rights as a woman or your worth. In the meantime, if he ever comes near you, your child or on your property you need to call the police. Women a murdered everyday by an abusive spouse or boyfriend. Take your life back. Do what you need to do to protect yourself and your child. Take care!

[adrianstone80]

It is very odd to hurt some one,especially women.