[aferry3982]

My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for about 8 months now. For the past couple of weeks he has been questioning my fidelity and he's asked me three times if I have ever or are cheating on him currently. He and I know that he is over-analytical with almost everything. He had a horrifying childhood, and he's been cheated on in the past. I've told him many times it is against my morals. When he seemed to accept it, he started stirring up arguments about the silliest things. We've been back and forth all week. He had told me he cares about me and that's why he's been so worried. What can I do to make the fighting halt, and is this a sign our relationship is crumbling?

[talaniman]

Sorry, but this partner of yours has issues and baggage from the past, and justifies bad behavior with caring.

Unless he gets a grip, and changes, he will be a very bad choice for a partner, and things usually end badly.

How old are you both?

[geminichick]

Has your boyfriend sought out help for whatever he went through as a child? That would ideally be a good place to start because he many have trust issues that are stemed from his childhood?

[jdeey]

If he has been cheated on in the past then I guess you can cut him some slack. Instead of only talking about it when you fight, maybe take him out for dinner or even just cuddle on the couch and tell him that you want toy talk to him about how devoted you are to HIM and no one else. Also let him know that it hurts you to know that he doesn't trust you, specially when you're not doing anything wrong. My boyfriend used to be pretty jealous and knew that it hurt me to know that he didn't trust me. We had a deep conversation about it and I knew that no matter what I said I cldnt stop his jealousy. I just told him that next time he has doubts or the jealous bug he needs to put his trust first and the doubts at the back of his head. That's what I used to do when I got a little jealous. It helped both of us.