[serenemeadow]

Let me make this as short as possible without skipping over the important details.

So I'm freshman in college right now and in one of my classes there is a girl I like. I've consciously made an effort to get closer to her by sitting next to her and just making casual conversation. There has been a bit of some teasing from me but she doesn't seem to reciprocate. So I stopped.

Sometimes I would try to walk with her after class ends but she seems reluctant. She is usually easy to talk to in class but outside not as much. Our 'goodbyes' outside of class are as really abrupt. Just a simple "bye" then walk away. Not even any eye contact. Now I'll admit my side of the goodbye is like this because I'm too nervous and shy that I end up choking and giving an awkward "bye" and sideward glance. But from her side I think it's because she is genuinely uninterested.

This has been going on for the past three months and at this point I would say that I still like her but for her it's strictly platonic. Now I'm planning on confessing.

Our term ends soon and that means we will probably never see each other again as we are from different departments. Before it ends I'm thinking of actually getting her alone after class to have a short. During that talk I mention how I've liked her for quite a while since the first time we talked. I let her know that I don't expect an answer and that I just had to tell her to get it off my chest. Knowing well in mind that she will mostly likely be speechless, I, as gracefully as possible, will end the conversation and part ways.

Now I'd like to know if there's anything wrong with going ahead with the confession. We aren't exactly friends, so I wouldn't be losing one if we stopped talking forever. Besides, even if I don't confess, we probably wouldn't talk ever again except for a random "Hi" now and then.

Any thoughts guys?

[Fr_Chuck]

Are you sure this is college and not Jr High, I am sorry, no you don't do that, what you do is ask them out, if you ask them out they will understand you are interested.

[Kahani Punjab]

Serene Meadow,

If you are not a junior in the college, or not in a school, ASK HIM OUT.

Good luck!

[serenemeadow]

I guess I should say that this isn't in happening in the USA, and that the courtship culture here is different from the USA. Let's say you go on a date with a girl this Saturday. All good. But then you go on a date next Saturday with a different girl. You get labeled 'promiscuous'. I guess it doesn't help that the average age of freshmen here is 17... I don't know. Maybe it's because the culture here is too conservative?

Back on topic. Yes asking the person out is probably the best course of action but I'm almost certain I'll get turned down. My shyness is also keeping me back. But I think the biggest setback to me asking this person out is because I would feel embarrassed if I even got with this person.

Before I'm shot flamed for being a vain SOB. I do understand how shallow my intentions are. You see, there's a lot of pressure on me to date extremely attractive girls because of who I am. The girl I'm crushing on right now wouldn't be 'up to par' so I... yeah. I won't go into the details.

I feel so terrible now for saying this. This just feels like a rant :S
Lol. Give me your worst.

[Kahani Punjab]

Nothing is shallow, dear!

Why the pressure? Can we know?
What's SOB, dear?