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foreversunshine · Dec 2, 2011, 10:44 AM

Me and my child's father dated almost 3 years. We have a 19-month old child, but were not together. He's started dating another girl, and I've tried to move on, but really can't. We still talk, text, hangout sometimes, and chill. The love is still there, but like I said he has a girlfriend. The girlfriend is a total *****. She knows that me and him still got things going on. I mean, I have his kid, of course he's still going to have some feelings for me... a lot of feelings for me LOL.

She's figured that I'm still in love with him too, and won't let him go because of that. I think its kind of silly of her. So she *****es when he comes over, and lately we haven't connected much. I wonder if he's moving on for good, or just don't want any drama with her. He's changed, used to be able to talk with him. Now he's angry at times, bitter, nice at times, lovable.

She changed him, and so did his family. I kind of feel like I don't know him anymore. I wish he'd man up. He'll always be my hunny, but what to do, what to do?

talaniman · Dec 2, 2011, 04:44 PM

Face the fact that he is got you both and you are the baby mama, but he has a life with someone else.

Confine your business to that of your child, and protect yourself because unless you have a babysitter then he is doing what he has to for the child you share, and NOT for a future with you.

He may be your hunny bunny, and baby daddy, but he ain't your man. He belongs to that other female. Seems he doesn't mind sharing himself with you both.

How long have THEY been together? Why aren't YOU together?

Homegirl 50 · Dec 2, 2011, 07:09 PM

If he wanted to be your man he would be with you and not with her.
Keep your contact with him strictly about the child and you move on. He obviously has.

Fr_Chuck · Dec 2, 2011, 07:51 PM

You are the place he goes when he gets tired of the stuff at home and wants to do something else.

In the inner city we call that just being the babies daddy where he feels he has the right to sex with the momma because he had her kid. He also normally does that, to keep her from filing for custody and child support
** Bet you have not filed and bet he is not paying his correct share?

So if you are happy being a unpaid hooker basically just being there for sex when he is bored at home ( his new girlfriend is his real lady of course)
But heck being second best to him I guess is better than not having him at all.