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PandabearsRock · Dec 1, 2011, 07:00 PM

So my best friend (lets say here name is marinda) in a fight for like the 5th time now, and I really I'm done with her games and crap. But if I tell her that I don't want to be friends she'll tell my other best friend ( also her bestfriend)( lets say her name is alecia) that I said that, and it will be super akward. She knows everything about me, even who I like, I don't know what to do, she does so many things for me, but I still feel like she's just doing that to be friends for me, if me and marinda aren't friends anymore, alecia would have to pick over me or her, and I know she would pick marinda! They known each other for like 8 years and I only known them both for just over 2 years now, I need help what should I do?!

Fr_Chuck · Dec 1, 2011, 09:20 PM

How about not "telling them" there are many levels of friends, just stop having as much to do with them. I have some "friends" I see and talk to a few times a year.

There is no need to announce that "we are not friends anymore" you just let it happen by less hanging out

xoRhiRhixo · Dec 2, 2011, 12:24 AM

Honestly,you shouldn't just end your friendship, I understand your over her games and bull**** but maybe you should talk to her about it and say that if this happens again I will be upset, she must care for you if she does those things for you because you wouldn't make an effort with someone if they don't mean anything to you, so try and work things out it out ending your friendship because quiet frankly I think she would be upset if you said you didn't won to be friends with her, and plus it will make you look bad to all of your friends so that would put you in an even bigger problem than your already are in now.

Hope things turn out well :)

PandabearsRock · Dec 12, 2011, 05:06 PM

I can't stand to be friends with her. She won't tell me anything, it seems like she doesn't even care for me. She blames me for her dogs death! It seems like she is just using me! So her friend and also mine are lockers are right by each other, and every time she comes over here, she like ( lets say her name is alecia) Alecia never me, she blames me for not txting her when she can txt me, we get into fights all the time, I don't know what to do anymore! Please help

JudyKayTee · Dec 12, 2011, 05:48 PM

This doesn't make sense.

At any rate, if you don't want to be her friend stay away from her.

If she comes "over here" ignore her.

tickle · Dec 12, 2011, 05:52 PM

She sounds like an accident waiting to happen. Just distance yourself from all of the drama. Don't answer, don't contact, just disappear and you get on with you rlife, she will eventually discover that she will have to get on with hers.

Tick

Aurora_Bell · Dec 14, 2011, 08:16 AM

I agree, just stop talking and hanging out with her. She will have no one else to blame, so she will start blaming the other friend. Time to branch out and find more friends. I never invested time into just one person when I was a teenager.

PandabearsRock · Dec 14, 2011, 03:24 PM

So me and my used to be friend just told me yesterday, that she didn't want to be friends anymore, I mean I'm not going to make her be friends with me, I told her if that's what you want. And she said OK, well today she just txted me saying hey I'm srry I didn't want to not be friends just a break maybe, exact words, I was super mad and said "u said no never call or txt you so do the same to me. And she said I was just saying our friendship isn't over no what I wanted I guess I wanted a brake. And I said no you said that you and your mom said that so no. What I mean by said that is that she wanted are friendship to be over! What should I do help me please!

SweetChick10101 · Dec 14, 2011, 08:52 PM

It sounds like she said that too quickly, and it looks like she regretted it. I think it is now your choice to forgive her (although I could see this being very awkward, especially if there's no reason behind why she didn't want to be friends), or, you can move on and decide that a friend that would hurt your feelings like that isn't worth the trouble.

PandabearsRock · Dec 15, 2011, 05:36 PM

Ok, I'm 12 and I have a friend who is 13 and whosed name is Marinda. We are both girls by the way, but I've known her since 6th grade and we are in 7th, we've had our ups and downs but we always forgave each other and it went back to normal, I was the one who always said " I'm sorry" even if I wasn't, I just couldn't stand fighting. But we've been getting into lots of fights lately for no reason, she still doesn't say sorry when she gets mad at me. She told me in a text that she didn't want to be friends anymore, and all I said was if that's what you want. And she said it was, so it was super weird the next day because my other best friend is her best friend too, so if she talked to me, Marinda thought she was getting left out, and I couldn't care less if my best friend (Alecia) was talking to Marinda. Well, now she wants to be friends and said sorry (surprisingly). I haven't made up my mind, but I know it would happen again. How do I tell her to her face, nicely, that I think we would be better off not friends? Please help!

JudyKayTee · Dec 15, 2011, 05:51 PM

I am asking that this thread about best friends be combined with your other threads about best friends. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...e-619662.html; https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-...do-619144.html

You use those exact words. "I've thought it over and I think it would be better if we weren't best friends."

joypulv · Dec 15, 2011, 06:04 PM

You sound a bit more mature than she is, and have the wonderful trait of being able to say you are sorry, so that will get you through a lot in life. I agree that you have sort of answered your own question. If you do want to stop being best friends and want to say it to her face, you can remind her of her wish to do such just the other day and that got you thinking that it might be good to both take some time off. That leaves the door open. (You might miss her too.)