[lor08]

Let me fill you in on all of the back ground.. Christie and I have been best friends for almost ten years now, we're both 20 and I'm a junior and she is a sophomore in college. When she was 17 she dated this guy named Nate for about 6 months. (Nate and I became friends when we were about 15, we went to high school together and always got along really well. She met him through me.) Christie and Nate were your typical high school romance, she thought they were madly in love and had such a great relationship. They ended up breaking up and she was of course devastated but moved on to another relationship. That ended after a year and then she began dating Casey and she's absolutely obsessed with him.. So much so that our friendship seemed to stop mattering to her. She only calls when she wants to complain about Casey and never bothers to ask about my life. Nate and I have remained friends and almost a year ago something changed (it had been 2 years since they were together). People have always said we were very flirty with each other and finally one night we both acted on our feelings. I felt so incredibly guilty because of Christie, but it just felt so right with him. I told her what had happened and that I never meant to develop feelings for him. She said it was fine, she had seen it coming and that you can't help who you love. She also said that she was so happy with Casey that it didn't bother her. Our friendship drew even more apart after that. Nate and I have been together for nearly a year now, and I'm so so happy with him. But I still feel guilty about breaking girl code with Christie. My friends say that I shouldn't, and that she isn't a good friend if she is going to hold a grudge over a 6month high school relationship. For some reason I feel like hearing total strangers unbiased opinions may help, please let me know.

[geminichick]

Stop feeling guilty. Your friends are so right! Your with this guy. YOu both love each other and that's what's important. Don't worry about your friend. Just be happy. If you were with her current boyfriend I would see you worrying or her being angry. Just move on and enjoy being with him. Great men are hard to find. At least this is the experience I'm having, so don't let this deter you from being with this great guy. Sounds like a keeper.