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sh.renu26 · Nov 30, 2011, 08:18 AM

I am in a relationship with a boy from the last 3 yrs. Our love relationship started in the 2nd yr of B.tech. Now he is doing a job and I am doing M.tech (1st yr). We truly love each other, his family also knows about us and they don't have any problem with our relationship.
But my parents specially my father is a too strict man, he is a society person and does not like love marriage or inter-cast marriage. My parents had started searching boy for me. And if I tell them about my love, they may hurt him or his family (my father is a kind of panchyati person though we live in metro city). My father is so orthodox that he didn't attended marriage of one of my cousin brother because it was a love marriage(inter-cast). Please suggest me what should I do?

sh.renu26 · Nov 30, 2011, 08:28 AM

Guys I forgot to tell you one thing i.e about the casts.
I am a pandit and my boyfriend is BC-A and the girl whom my cousin married about 6 months ago is punjabi(General). My father has still not accepted this marriage. Please please suggest me something. I love both my family as well as my boyfriend.

zhierl · Dec 1, 2011, 08:33 AM

I will tell you that my knowledge of the caste system is VERY limited. However this situation reminds me of a relationship I was in with a young woman who was a baptist. Her father being as strict as he was refused to acknowledge us as a couple simply because I am a catholic. He instead made her date people from her church which eventually led to our break-up. Having come from a family where my grandfather was very against inter-racial marriage, when it did come time for me to marry I approached him and explained that my (now wife) girlfriend was Mexican and that I felt for her the way he felt for my grandmother. When he realized this made me happy, he fully supported it. The first thing you should do is try and explain things to your father. I am sure he is stubborn and set in his ways and it won't be easy, however if you keep trying and find a way to relate it to something deeply personal in his eyes then maybe he will see. If not then go off on your own and get married and be happy. His recognition should not be a deciding factor in what you do, you own joy and happiness should.

sh.renu26 · Dec 1, 2011, 08:39 AM

Thanku Zhierl.