[Onsooniii]

I am only 16 years of age and while most people believe that most teenagers don't know what true love is, I beg to differ. I dated my girlfriend Danielle in July, we dated for a month and then I broke up with her. I broke up with her because I was scared because I didn't know what to do with these feelings that were developing so fast.

We remained friends with benefits (not really in that way) we still had a connection, we always said I love you and everything. I messed up again and I hurt her. I hurt her because I was scared of falling in love.

Recently, I've won her back and we seem to have picked off where we left off as if we've still been dating since July even though we haven't.

I love her a lot, as she does me. And I know for a fact I am in love with her. I cannot control whom I fall for.

But I enjoy the right now, the us now because I see myself marrying a man in the future. I know this is only a fraction of my life, I have so much more to live. I'm only sixteen! But when I'm with her, I think "I'm marrying a guy". Because even though I date both genders, and I have dated many girls, I see myself marrying a man in the future.

Am I being unfair to those who I date? I know this isn't set in stone and I'm only sixteen but I only see myself marrying a man and I know I don't have control over whom I fall for in the future but am I being wrong? Am I being deceitful?

[DaniCalifornia]

If she's different to you and sees a proper future you need to discuss it before 1- She gets too attached, and 2- So you aren't just using her temporarily. If you truly love her, then why do you see yourself marrying someone else?

X Dani

[geminichick]

I agree with Dani... If you truly love this girl you would tell her how you feel and why would you want to marry a guy if you love her? YOu should let her know about your future plans. Yeah, your only 16 years old, in my opinion a little to young to think about settling down and falling in love if you ask me. Get your education and think about your future... college... university... trade school perhaps. Get that on course than worry about the love matter later.

[talaniman]

Does she know you date guys, and girls? Thats something she does need to know.You are only 16, have fun, and wait for the marriage stuff when it happens, and keep your secret future desires to yourself.

Heck all 16 year old think they are so in love, and it will last forever, so she is no different, just don't lie. Or lead them on with fantasies of the future. But its not deceitful to keep your secrets to yourself, and have fun NOW!

You are in young love now, have fun and enjoy it, be a good partner, and keep it real. None of us knows the future, yet teens think they do, but they never know. One day at a time dude.