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orchardplant · Feb 9, 2007, 03:57 AM

The father of my child is unknow, I have a new partner and two children together. We both want the child to be adtoped to bring as much normality as possible to his life. We live together and he has been part of his life from 4 months my son knows no different look to him as his dad . Is this still possible?

Fr_Chuck · Feb 9, 2007, 07:26 AM

There will have to be attempts make to determine who the father of the child is, if you have a list of three people, DNA tests may be required to know who the faither really is.

But after a hard and long search meeting all of your local courts requirements, they would do a legal posting of the notice and allow an adoption

You will need an attorney to help with this, since there will be a lot of specific requirements you will need to meet

sexybeasty · Feb 18, 2007, 06:15 PM

Originally Posted by orchardplant

the father of my child is unknow, i have a new partner and two children together. we both want the child to be adtoped to bring as much normality as possible to his life. we live together and he has been part of his life from 4 months my son knows no different look to him as his dad . is this still possible?

I absolutely believe it is. It is so good that you have found some normalicy in the lives of you and your children. I want to know why you don't marry the man you love enough to have children with and want to adopt your first child? What is the hold up?

I think you should contact a paralegal first, one who specializes in adoptions. It won't be cheap, but a lot less expensive than a lawyer. They may want you to name names of possible suspects. This may be very intrusive. If you are willing to lie, you may get away with no one contacted, but it will be hairy for you to be sure. With DNA these days, it may be possible to find the father unless the promiscuity is far reaching and you do not know the men. Anyway you look at it, it won't be easy.

There is another way. You can wait for your child to reach 18 and have an adult adoption. It is not very expensive if you go through a paralegal and is very rewarding, as both people are adopting each other. I did this with my son. I always knew who the father was, but didn't put him on the birth certificate because it was a date rape and he was a drug abuser and an alcoholic. My son eventually got to meet his bio dad, at age 16 and they are friends. My son's "real" father is my husband. He raised him since he was 5 and are very close. The adult adoption bonded them even closer. It was a promise made when he was small and I always keep my promises.

Hope this helps. Blessings to you and yours.

s_cianci · Feb 20, 2007, 08:10 PM

It may be possible. A lot will hinge on the judge's willingness to believe that you truly don't know who the father is. You may have to locate all eligible "candidates" and have them tested to determine paternity, then the "winner" will have to give his consent for the adoption to take place. If, upon learning that he's a father, he doesn't want to do that, then it could get messy. Again, much will depend on the judge.