[mnbuterfli]

My boyfriend and I went and looked at a perfect little place to live. Its our dream property/house. It is well over an hour away from where he lives. I live yet another hour away form him.

He is going through a custody battle which as of last week he was going to concede and give the ex her way. Yesterday we saw this house. I prayed all day for God to lead me. Let me get approved for this house If its meant to be.

Today I was pucked over a man who had 5 grand down.. I had 100 to put down. The couple really liked me and could tell I loved the property as much as they did. Today my boyfriend said he wanted to continue to fight for custody, which I really believe he will get. If he does there was NO way he could move to new place with me and our relationship would end.

So I passed it up... was this the right thing to do? Was it part of Gods plan for me to be torn and heartbroken? I'm so confused!

[talaniman]

While I fail to follow your logic as to the choices you made, I do believe you did what's right for you, and think when things become better defined in your life, you will have a chance at an even better house of your dreams.

I understand being disappointed though.

[mmresd]

I am sorry to hear that you had to make such a hard decision, however if you are willing to stick around while he fights for the right to his kids, then go ahead. If you choose to do so, then you are also going to be willing to let good opportunities pass by you. I would not have personally, but I am not you, if you made the choice that made you the MOST happiest, then you have made the best one for you.

[Fr_Chuck]

There is no perfect house, they are all four walls and a heater. A home is made by the people who live there. You can be happier in the slums with a person you love than a 10 million dollar mansion with a loveless relationship.

Would you just give up on visits or custody of your kids ( if you have them ?) Nor should you ask him to.

Why are you not moving to where he is now? Why does there have to be a new home?

[mnbuterfli]

Chuck.. I like and agree with what you said. I also want to clarify I would never expect him to give up fighting.. I encourage him to fight! I guess I'm just full of "what ifs".. what if he gives up next week? what if he doesn't win? what if we don't work out?
He has an apt big enuf for him and his kids.. I fit in the bed and at the dining table. There isn't a place for me to even sit in living room.I have a son also that doesn't have a bed or space at boyfriends.He lives at my nice peaceful home on a lake. Boyfriend and I try to enjoy but my son kind of took it over.. lol.. so I'm just torn..

Mmr and tal, I am still struggling with the decision I had to make. But I feel all things happen for a reason. And I do believe home is made up of the people in it and the happiness those people bring to it. Im praying I made the right decision and hope to soon no longer regret it. He loved the place as much as I did and if he was not able to be there with me I just don't think id love it as much.

[vanheart]

Screw the house.

This is what I caught:
"He is going thru a custody battle which as of last week he was going to concede and give the ex her way"

You've made the decision to get with him. Knowing all of this. Let him sort his baggage out. First.
And you, before you get into it.

"Was it part of Gods plan for me to be torn and heartbroken?"
That's for you to decide.

[mnbuterfli]

You're right, I entered the relationship knowing there was a bumpy road ahead.. and I'm not going left or right. Im going to walk this road with him and support his decisions.
I think I will continue to pray and wait it out. Like I said, I believe all things happen for a reason and with God, all things are possible. I also want the kids in our lives. I don't want to see him give up. So I'm thinking this is all part of the plan .
Time will tell.
Thanks for your replies.